I'm being blackmailed with food: how do I stop her?

Question

My neighbour is always asking me to come over. I don't. Then whenever she meets me in the hallway she insists on taking me out to a restaurant. If I say no she lays a heavy guilt trip on me. She is very bitchy, fussy and wants to rule my life. But I don't let her in. She knows I'm a food addict and she uses that against me. Always giving me food to buy my companionship. I know she's lonely and bored but I don't wanna have to deal with her bit*-a** anymore. I can't bear the guilt too long. So after a week of being asked constantly, I'll give in and go. But afterward I feel awful. I don't wanna go through that again. How do I stop?

Answer 1

Pretend like your busy

Answer 2

Tell her you are busy.  Tell her you have other plans.  Tell her you just don't have time.  Suggest she get involved with some groups that might interest her.   Tell her you have some work your boss wants you to do at home for the next few weeks and you won't have any spare time.  When she offers you food, tell her you are on a strict diet and CAN NOT go out to eat or eat anything that is not on your diet.  

Answer 3

tell her your on a diet

stop giving in

or tell her that your busy and ull call her

Answer 4

She sounds pretty loney and desperate. You're sure she isn't g*y too?  She sounds very manipulative and I have to wonder what her ulterior motive is.

I would just tell her no, I'm trying to cut back on food and she is not helping you by shoving it under your face all the time.  Tell her flat out.  It's the best way.  

You might be a bit rude but that might just drive the point home and get her off your back once and for all.

You are pretty weak willed if you keep succumbing.  She has seen that and uses it against you.

What is it that you really object to....the FOOD she throws your way or her company?

If it's just the food tell her you will hang out with her providing it's not in a restaurant.

If it's her company, just tell her no.  Tell her the doctor said you are borderline diabetic and have to lose weight and that you have started an exercise routine in the evenings, the only free time you have.

If she still insists then say what kind of friend ARE you knowing that food could kill me and still insisting?  Then say I don't think I can hang out with you anymore and walk away.

Answer 5

Try to ignore her in the hall way..peek out your door if shes there dont go out.  you have control over this  tell your parents  .. call the law. --dont let her guilt trip control your life.. no means NO. tell her you changed your eating habits,,that your on a diet

Answer 6

well that would be harrassment so i would say go to your local law enforcement station and file for a restraining order against her if its that bad.

Answer 7

Make outrageous excuses like you have a contagious disease or maybe you have to wash your hair or maybe you have to organize your canned goods and maybe she'll get the hint.

Answer 8

Don't tell us, tell her! Tell her exactly how you feel and avoid her. The bait here is food and only you can turn away from that.  

Answer 9

tell her point blank that if you and her are gonna be friends she needs to stop the b!tchng. Since she is lonely, I say give her one more chance, maybe she will change

Answer 10

JUST SAY NO