I have a friend Mary who I’ve been friends with for over 8 years. She’s married to Tom who I don’t especially like, he really freaks me out and he’s come on to me once or twice since I’ve known him. Previously I’ve slept with his brother (who is married) not something I’m proud of.
Tom has a boss at work called Gray, who is about 20 years older than me and married. One night after a few too many drinks Gray and I ended up in bed, we didn’t have s*x but we did give each other oral s*x. Again I’m really not proud of it and assumed it was to be kept quiet. Given that he’s married I assumed it was to be our dirty little secret so I didn’t tell anybody.
All was normal between Mary & I immediately after it happened. However in the past week contact has become very stilted and has almost stopped. I have a feeling Gray told Tom what happened. I’m not very good at dealing with confrontation so don’t know how to approach this. I’ve also been kind of protecting Gray cause I feel that if I say something and nobody knows it might jeopardise his marriage. I know Tom has always thought of me as nothing more than a s**t and this has probably confirmed that. What’s really killing me is that I have an inkling they’ll go back to being best buddies with Gray cause he’s a vital part of Tom’s working life and I’ll be the one left out. What can I do I’d really hate to lose my friend?
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