I'm depressed, i have one true friend and a few nice people around me. Please read, and help.?

Question

I recently got dumped, for another girl. A girl that doesn't even like him, but that's not what upsets me. He knew I had trust issues with guys, but I let myself trust him because he told me I could tell him anything and that he wouldn't hurt me. So we talked a lot, we had some serious conversations and a lot of funny ones. But when he went behind my back talking to this other girl saying stuff like "Please break up with your boyfriend so I can go out with you." And he didn't even have the guts to say it to me by himself; he got my SISTER to tell me that he was going to break up with me. I loved him, I had never felt this way about any other guy. And to see him walk out on me like so many people have, hurts like h**l. School just recently started and well I'm not doing so great. I always have trouble at first with making friends because everyone always seems to be in pairs already. And if your not in a group or pair, your pretty much by yourself. I'm trying, but I'm just shy sometimes. But when I'm not shy I can be a really outgoing person but if I don't know you, I seem to hold back. I only have one close friend, my ex boyfriend was like a best friend to me too but then he totally ruined it. And obviously my best friend [that's a girl] doesn't go to my school, she's two grades above me. I'm feeling really hopeless and down, like why am I here... Nobody cares whether I'm here or not, well okay my family and best friend cares. That's all. I'm not saying that if I'm popular I'll be the happiest person ever, but I hate feeling lonely. I'm trying to stay positive but I have to ask you guys about this. What should I do about this? I feel so hopeless.

By the way, I'm in the ninth grade.

Answer 1

I am several years older than you, and I now see that if you have one good friend from childhood to old age, a lucky person you are!  What we call friends are often acquaintances and disappear over time.  One that's always there when you need them is truly special.  As far as the groups and couples, spread your wings a little where you can be a little shy in the beginning.  Join a social group or club and get to know some new people.  They very well may be looking for a friend just as much as you.

Answer 2

Alright. Well, this situation sounds somewhat familiar to me. When I was a sophomore in high school I had a similar situation. I did however have more friends. (it's not exactly the same, but i think you could still learn from my situation) I dated this guy right after someone close to me had died. We only went out for two weeks, but we had been really close for about 5 years. So he broke up with me, but it didn't bother me all that much b/c he was a jerk. So after that breakup and that death I was extremely depressed and i resorted to AWFUL habits. I felt that no one needed me, as you said you felt. But that's just definitely not true. I started going to one of my friends' non-denominational churches and I grew as a person. I met my now boyfriend there and we have been together for almost 3 years. I realize that if i had simply given up on myself and my life that I would have missed out on So So much. I'm now entering college and I'm doing great. I hope this helps. As for the shy thing, I am too. But you just have to try to put yourself out there...be yourself and you will do fine. Friends will flock to you as long as you are comforting and understanding to others. I'm sorry about your boyfriend, but he sounds like a typical high school boy. You just need to find someone that will respect you. Ok? let me know if you need anything else. Remember...you are needed.

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Answer 3

wow...im so sorry and this must be hard for you...if i were you i would say s***w him! soon he is gonna realize that ur the best thing that was in his life and he needs u nd even if you love him i wouldnt trust him again(my opinion) but even if he doesnt want you bac all you have to do is not care and forget it! be condident in who u are and take control of ur life! at school be you and have a lot of confidence! maybe change something about you not who you are but the outside maybe start to dress different and express yourself through ur clothes also maybe start something u always wanted to do to get ur mind off ur ex and help witht he confidence and making friends......try ur best to talk to different people at skewl...dont go for the popular people but people who u think could possibly be ur friends....be open and not shy.....be you the confident u...who cares wat other people think..forget about him and live ur life!!! hope that helps....good luck!