I'm dreading going back to school ._.?

Question

I'm really shy so the people i hang around with are like Be more outgoing!! And it just isn't me to act like that. It's not like I have much choice in picking who I hang around with because the girls in my year are either b*****s or snobs. I feel like I have to fit in and its destoying my grades because I'm always like "Who will I sit beside?" Next year our classes split up and everybody is put in with other people and the friends I have now are sure to ditch me.. I dont know what to do I have to get my uniform on tuesday and im depressed. Help ._.

Answer 1

I really feel for you, its like reading my daughters thoughts, she is exactly the same as you very shy and not at all outgoing.  I tell her be true to yourself and people will be drawn to you because you are quiet I know some girls are prettier and more popular but believe me and i'm talking from experience those girls as they get older either loose face with people in school or people realise what b*****s they are and ditch them.  

I was shy at school but as you get older, confidence grows and never let anyone put you down, your as good as them, if not better, so don't let them ruin your grades and there'll be some great friends to be made in future years.

Answer 2

Well just be cool with it. i just kinda act like some of the calm but cool guys, cuz i am not like out going like some of my ganster friends.  I just recomend a cool hair style, and what ever else that no one will bother u.  I am on the drumline at my school so even though i am extremely short i still got a lot of friends.  Our drumline rocks.

Answer 3

Okay, try one on one friend. Like, invite a friend or a person that you do not like and try like having them over and stuff. Remember, only you and the friend. You can do that and they will realize you are still a great friend and they could still be friends with you.

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

how old are you?

i'm 15 and my mother bought my school skirt for next year today

i havent been in for one day since te start of these holidays

ive met a load of new people

had a load of great days

got myself a boyfriend

and life is really looking up

i tried it on and actually had some kind of breakdown

i understand exactly how you feel.

that was around 6ish... i haven't spoken to anyone since then 'cos i felt too miserable...it's half 1 in the morning where i am

the thing is that if you're anywhere near my age, there's actually less than a year left for me now

i've messed up my GCSEs

and i'm failing

i'm way behind everyone else because even the idea of going to that place stops me from sleeping and turns me into some irritating teenager instead of the average human being i normally am...

my advice to you is to just stick it out

i know that sounds crappy but life carries on and the thing is that the happier you can force yourself to believe you are, the easier it is for you to carry on and be triumphant in the end and get on with your life

Answer 5

Try and just be yourself, i know its easier said than done, but that is the only advice i can give. If people really like you then you will find true friendship with them and if they don't, then, do you really want to hang round with people like that? If you find you are struggling to fit in, or they are giving you some hassle or whatever, just imagine them sat on the toilet straining to open their bowels! hahahaha, my teacher told my brother that when he used to get intimidated by other kids at school and it worked, cos no matter how cool or clever or smart people are, we all look stupid on the toilet! hahahaha.

Answer 6

dont let school control your life think of it just as a place you go!! your friends dont have to be in school!! in fact most of my best friends are not in my school!!

Answer 7

same thing happened to me=/ i hate school since i just moved hear last year ugh people are soo cruel at least they arn't a racist to  you

Answer 8

If the friends you have now are "sure" to ditch you, they can't be very good friends can they?

Not every girl in your year is nasty or a snob, surely?! Have you tried talking to girls in other years?

I understand what you are going through though. School can be a very lonely place at times. Just remember, you are a good person and don't feel like you have to change who you are to fit in or to make friends. Concentrate on your school work and don't let things get in the way of doing well. I know sitting next to someone you don't know might feel uncomfortable, but you never know, they might be really nice and you may end up making friends with them. The same principle goes for when your classes change and you will be with new people. When I was at school the same thing happened, and while I didn't really like it at first, I found that I was making friends with people I didn't know before, and that was a good thing.

I really hope all goes well. Just smile and try to be positive about it.  

Answer 9

I am the same way

But then I just think to myself Whatever..

I don't care

if you don't find anyone to sit with then just read or do something

Don't just sit there and stare at people

Answer 10

if your current friends are worth having they will stick around, if they don't then they don'tdeserve to be friends with you. i struggled to make friends at school because i was chronically shy but i joined one after school club and having a common interest is a real ice breaker. hope things go well this term and try not to worry!

Answer 11

Don't care too much about what your classmates think of you, just be yourself.  I'm shy at my school too and find that it's best just to ignore their criticism.  You can hang around with whoever you want, just remember that after your done with school you'll probably never see these people again.  

One way to feel confident about this year is to think that everyone else dreads going back to school too.

Answer 12

There are quite a few others writing on the same lines.  Read all their replies too, cos they all count and some of the comments and help are good for anyone in your situation.

I was incredibly shy too.  if you look at some of my answers to others you can see some of what I went through.  The best advice I can give is force yourself to take part in some activities as that will put you in closer contact with other people [some of them are probably feeling exactly the same as you right now!]  

Talk to the friendliest teacher you know and ask for their help.  But don't forget they might be very busy so make sure they know just how scared you are.  Even if they ask another adult [like a Teacher Assistant] to help you they will want to know your OK it won't mean they don't want to help.  Such an approachable teacher will have lots more people asking for help at this time of the year.