I'm entering my late 60s and I overheard 2 of my kids saying I was a burden to them....?

Question

BECAUSE I'm having catarak surgery and they need to drive me to doctor visits and wait for me and drive me home---and they feel I'm a "BURDEN"... I know I shouldn't take that 'personally'...but how else do I ? It makes me want to 'check out'...to not be a burden to them anymore. The hospital HAD 4 phone #s for my daughter in case of emergencies, and when they called to have her come and take me home, not one of the numbers answered. They had to come and ask me for an alternate. It was my son, who couldn't do it, bcz he drives for a living and couldn't answer at all. WHAT DO I DO? (I've cried my eyes out...what do I do?)

Answer 1

Maybe you should try to look for an assisted living for senior's complex.

A place where you would have all your own space and freedoms and still have someone to help you out with small things.Such as grocery shopping and errands to doctors and such.Have a talk with both of your children and see what could work out for both of you.They want to have their lives and you want to have yours.My grandma lives in one of these complexes and we live right down the street.She has friends there and rides and personel help whenever she needs it.She enjoys having the freedom she has always had and being able to visit with us whenever she wants and still be able to go home.

Answer 2

   I think the first thing I'd do is announce you're going to spend any possible inheritance.

Answer 3

Remember this the next time they need something from you.  

Answer 4

Next time call a taxi.

Answer 5

Imagine how it feels for them. It is easy for outsiders to look at these kids and say how inconsiderate, but if we were them it would be a hassle. Although they need to understand that you need them in your life now. If you go to the office that frequently, seriously who would want to take someone there that many times. Simply just talk to them and say that you need them now.

Answer 6

Ok, first off you are not a burden and should not feel that way. You are part of that family too. As far as what you heard them say I feel that they were out of line with saying it but it was said. My suggestion would to be look for someone with some time on their hands and see if they would like to make a little money by being there to take you to your appointments. Usually a college student or retired medical worker would be the best way to go. I hope this helps. Newspaper classifieds or your physcian's office may be the best starting point  

Answer 7

That's really sad and very indicative of how people over 60 are treated in our country. Perhaps you could get assistance from a local church group or outreach group that could help you out. I'm sorry that the ones you helped raised are now walking away from you as if nothing happened before that. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Well, I know it's a little obvious, but I think next time they want something, you should say to one of them or both, "Gosh, you guys are a burden. Look at you, all grown up and STILL coming to me for help. My GOODNESS." OK, that seems kinda rude. But make your own version of that to say to them since you want them to know, but not tell them directly that you heard. I hope it helps.