I'm expecting a baby boy,somebody please help...?

Question

Hello.I'm expecting my first child and just found out yesterday that it's a boy.Me and my boyfriend decided we want our son to be circumsized when it's born.Does anyone know how this works?Like do they circumsize right after he's born or the next day?And how long after he is circumsized does he stay at the hospital?Or does he leave the same day I leave?Please help..Thanks.

Answer 1

hello i have a son too   will sometime  the do it the day your doing to leave it just depends on how many babies were born that day and night anyways they will put this cream on his private  and it is an antiseptic that numbs it they will that let that sit for about 20-30 minutes then they will do it. after that they will bring him back out to you so you can hold and feed him and on going home the wait 4 hrs and after that they will show you haw to care for it and wash and clean then you can go home if everything is ok with you and him  

Answer 2

Circumcision is not a big deal, My son was circumcised the next day and we would have been out of the hospital that night but he was a bit early so we stayed an extra night.  

Answer 3

Congratulations on your news!

Whether to circumcise a son is a question all parents face, but nowadays more and more are opting out of it. For that reason, I personally think you should reconsider... And here's why:

- According to a Gov't study, only HALF of baby boys are being circumcised in the US nowadays (compared to 80% a few decades ago) and worldwide only 20% are.

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_1...

- Circumcision is now seen as medically unnecessary. The AAP does not recommend routine circumcision anymore. They say "it is not essential to the child's current wellbeing."

- The f******n is not just a useless flap of skin. It holds many protective, sensory and sexual functions, and since the invention of the shower, its real easy to keep clean.

http://www.noharmm.org/mothering.htm



- An baby's uncircumcised p***s requires NO special attention. You don't need to clean under the f******n after every diaper change! He'll discover his f******n whenever he's ready (which won't be retractable until the age of 5-10) and then its a case of simply educating him about his own personal hygiene.

http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html

In fact it is easier to care for than the aftermath of a circumcision, which needs very careful attention as it is essentially an open wound!

I think you should leave your son's p***s intact — He’ll be a bit of perfection when he’s born so 'if it aint broke dont fix it'!

Answer 4

I had my first baby 8 months ago and i opted for a c section for fear of natural child birth. I know im a weiner... anyways we also wanted our son circumsized. I was in the hospital for two nights and the third morning they preformed the circumsision. I was holding him when the nurse came in and took his diaper off and placed a red sewing thimble looking thing on his p****r. she left for about 3 minutes them returned to take him to the nursery to have it done. The red thing numbed in for him before he got to the back. They brought him back to me about 20 minutes later. He was takeing a bottle. He was a little fussy the rest of the morning but by noon he was fine. It was really sad to me but they said he didnt know about it. That nite we were all released together and the nurse should give you little gauze strips or the gauze for you to cut into strips and some petroleum jelly or triple antibiotic ointment to put on it every diaper change. You gently rub the ointment on it and wrap a narrow strip of gauze around the cut portion of his weinie. It looks painful but it isnt unless the gauze gets stuck from not being changed frequently enough. I hope I helped. Good Luck and Congrats on your New Baby Boy!! They are so precious.

Answer 5

Have you considered not doing it?  Birth can be so traumatic for both you and the baby anyway, so why cause any additional trauma?  The surgical wound itself may heal in a relatively short amount of time, but your child would be forever denied a part of his body that he has every right to keep.  

You will probably hear horror stories about how difficult it is to keep clean and all the "infections" he will get and all the teasing in the locker room and how traumatized he will be if he doesn't "look like daddy", but those are just myths that our culture has perpetuated because we don't know how else to justify this horrible practice that was forced on us by the Victorian-era medical profession.

Please, please take some time to read some of the links and watch the video that were provided to you in some of the previous answers.

Answer 6

Why?  Is the p***s yours?  Is it your boyfriend's?  Would you circumsize your daughter?  How do you feel about cultures who circumsize their females?

Circumcision is a completely useless cosmetic procedure that is becoming less and less common.  The United States is the last country that practices it for non-religious reasons.  It's also a multi-million dollar industry, which is why it probably is still practiced there.

You should do some more research, most notably on what exactly it is you'll be taking away from him.  There are many men who were circumsized at birth who are not happy about it.  Also, 80% of the world's men are intact.  I guess that means 80% of the world's men are disease-ridden and dirty.  Strangely enough most of the female population still want to be with them. . .

Answer 7

My son was circumsized on his second day of life.  He slept through the entire procedure and the doctor and nurses explained the after care to us before we went home.  It was very easy and healed very quickly.

Answer 8

My son was circumsized the day after he was born.  They can go home whenever they get the okay from the Dr.  You should ask your OB who does the circumcision because with my first child it was the OB who did it and then when I was asking the OB where I live now about getting one done if my second was a boy he said the pediatrician does it.  So in different areas there are different practices as to who does it and also how it's done.  My son had a gomco circumcision and I knew that if my second was a boy that I would want the same kind so I had to check around for someone who would do that kind (most of the Dr.s in my current area do the plastibell kind where there is a little thing around the end of the p***s).  When the dr.s do take your son for the procedure let them know that you expect your baby back right after the procedure is done.  I even let my dr.s know and the nurses still kept him in the nursery against my wishes.  I had to ask for him back a few times.  But then again I did have a crazy nurse that kept telling me that my son needed to be in the nursery while he was in the hospital and that I needed to let the nurses take care of him!  She was certainly loony to think that I would part with my baby for any reason!

Answer 9

They will usually do a circ the one day or two days before he goes home from the hospital. The hospital stay is determined by how the delivery went (like if there were any complications).

I had my first child on a Friday, he was circumsized on Saturday& we went home on Sunday.

My second child was born at 32 weeks so he had a lengthy hospital stay in the NICU. I had him on a Monday & I went home the next day. He stayed in the hospital for exactly 4 weeks. I believe they circumcized him 2 days before he came home.

Answer 10

Yes we(anti-cut) are hardcore in trying to prevent child abuse.

The cost is more than the dollars.  There is a cost in depriving him of an important part of his sexuality.  The f******n is meant to slide back and forth during intercourse, and give pleasurable sensations. And the glans of circumcised men gets keratinized(desensitised) over time. Circumcised men have to bang away frantically to get even part of the sensations avaliable to uncircumcised men, And don't believe the BS about doing it for hygiene reasons.  Ten seconds is all it takes to wash oneself daily. You will smell better as well.

Check out these n Google:

Mothers against cicrcumcision

Doctors opposed to circumcision

Catholics against circumcision

Muslims against circumcision

Jews against circumcision.

Answer 11

No, they won't do it the same day that the baby is born. They will do it either the next day or the day after that. Depending on how you deliver will determine how long you stay in the hospital, but he can go home the same day.  

Answer 12

our little guy was circumcised roughly 24 hours after he was born.  they do it right in the hospital.  you can go with and watch.  our little guy came home with us the day it was done, but it depends on the overall health of your baby.  it takes roughly about 2 weeks for it to completely heal and you have to put a Vaseline type substance on it every time you change him until it's healed.  also only sponge baths until both the circumcision and the belly button heal.

Answer 13

My son was circumsized the day after he was born and went home the next day with me.  My best friends son was circumsized 2 days after he was born and went home the same day with her.  So it all depends on your hospital but he shouldnt have to stay any longer than you do.  

Answer 14

Why would you get that done? It's cruel and not necessary. I don't recommend it.

Harriet

Answer 15

When my oldest son was born, he was circumcised the second day and was able to go home with me on the third day. We had special things to do (and not do) for the next 10-12 days with the site to keep it clean and stuff.  If you type "circumcision" ..Yahoo will give you several things to look up or explore.  

Answer 16

ask your doctor for specific information about what they will do to yoru baby and when.  you can also ask your doctor for advice about how to care for it afterwards.  this is a decision that your child will have to live with forever, so make sure you've really thought it through and have asked about all the details.

Answer 17

I would definitely advise you not to circumcise. It is unnessecary, painful, and not without serious risks. Here is some information, with links, to help you make your decision....

First, only 50% of boys nationwide are circumcised. You may actually find that your son is in the minority in the locker room if you cut him. (I don't advocate making this decision on those grounds, but if you were leaning towards doing it because you don't want him to be "different", you should know that the boys will be pretty evenly split between cut and intact and noone will think intact is weird)

Second, it is VERY painful to an infant. Most doctors still don't use any anesthesia, those that do rarely offer adequate anesthesia because the only stuff that works is not safe enough to use in infants for such a "minor" procedure. Further, some of the pain meds offered to infants aren't even reccomended for use on babies! Further, some doctors argue that it has beenb done "for thousands of years" without anesthetic- what they neglect to tell you is that a medical circumcision can take over 15 minutes to complete. A Jewish ritual circumcision, by contrast, takes under 60 seconds to complete (and the bay is given wine) Here is some info on the pain.....

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/

http://www.circumcision.org/response.htm

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/taddio2... (note in this one that even infants offered pain meds for the procedure showed signs of post traumatic stress!)

You should also know that studies have shown that the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy of ON the f******n- NOT the head of the p***s. By cutting off the f******n, you remove a mans most errogenous genital tissue. Here is a study about that.... (note that other studies found no difference, but they neglected to test the sensitivty of the f******n- they only tested the glans p***s of intact and cut men and didn't pay any attention to the f******n at all) http://www.nocirc.org/touch-test/touchte...

You should know that infant boys are EASIER to care for when they are intact. The f******n does not retract until late childhood or even puberty, so you do nothing special, just wipe the outside of his p***s clean and leave it alone. In a cut boy he will be extremely sensitive for a few weeks because the head of the p***s is raw and exposed (they have to tear the f******n off of the head in infants, it is naturally fused). During this time you will need to keep it VERY clean and may need to cover the wound with vaseline and guaze. Furthermore, to prevent painful and bleeding erections later in life, doctors are now commonly leaving more skin behind- in a cut boy this means you may have to push the left over skin back at every diaper change and clean beneath it to prevent it from readhereing or infecting. The very thing that mother's think they avoid by circumcising! In short-

Intact = wipe like a finger, NEVER retract

Cut= vaseline, clean thoroughly, push back remaining skin to prevent adhesions etc (the last step perhaps for several months or years)

Here is an excellent tutorial on the basics of intact care and circumcision....

http://www.lactivistintactivist.com/?pag...

Another factor in your decision is that circumcised boys experience a 12% increase in their risk of MRSA infection. MRSA is commonly picked up in hospitals (where circumcision is performed in non-sterile conditions) and has been known to kill adults. I wouldn't want to deal with it in an infant. Also, 12% is a BIG risk, the risk of a boy "needing" a circ later in life is WELL below that- under 1%. http://www.nocirc.org/publish/12-Answers...

The so called "benefits" of circumcision are generally trumped up. A big one now is that it "prevents" AIDS. All the studies showing "benefits" like this have been poorly designed and inconclusive. Also, for every study that finds a "benefit" there are more studies that find no benefit. http://www.icgi.org/

It is rather eye-opening to see how circumcision first became popular in the US to begin with. It was virtually unknown in this country until the 20th century. This slideshow takes you through the rise of circumcision.... http://youtube.com/watch?v=f4unKTMpBGA

Finally, you should watch a video or two of the procedure so you are fully informed of what your infant will go through. I will warn you that these are graphic. If you can't handle watching them as an adult, why would you expect your infant son to endure them?

There are two main methods for circumcision here is one of each-

Gomco Clamp- note that the father is in the room, and the doctor claims to have used anesthesia (although whether or not he did is debateable, and he is dissmissive about the whole idea) http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=...

Plastibell- I include this because some parents will have you believe it is "painless" or "requires no cutting/blood" I'll let you judge for yourself.....

http://youtube.com/watch?v=qaqQ5Glro84

Co

Answer 18

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIRANs0eX...

thats what they will do...

they will not do it the same day

Answer 19

They circumcise 24-48 hours after you deliver. After that, he can go home when you do. You'll have to make sure you keep vaseline on it after the bandage comes off and until it's no longer red. I can't tell you that it won't hurt him at all, but my son was circumcised and he's perfectly normal now. Please don't believe all the hype about it. The anti-snip movement is hardcore, but I think it's a great choice. PLEASE DON"T WATCH THE YOUTUBE VIDEO! I decided to circumcise my son after I found out he's better protected from penile and f******n cancers. Don't worry too much about it now, the doctors will tell you how to care for it. It's about the same as caring for the umbilical stump. Congrats on the baby boy, and good luck!

Answer 20

some do it right after the baby pops out some do it the day after but it's always done close to the birth so if an infection occurs it can't be blamed on the circumcision

I wish my parents hadn't chosen it for me, when I found out about it I read everything I could, I know tons of information about and have read both pro and anti circumcision websites, I really wanted to believe it was good, but the truth just isn't there, you see and hear all these claims but if you ask for the actual study nobody has them or they are so old and used invalid techniques and would not even be considered for publishing, I wanted to believe it was good but if you look at both sides, circumcising without an immediate medical need makes no sense at all. I later did f******n restoration restoring what was left (they do leave some f******n) but it's not all restorable, but what I was able to get back was great. but this came at a price, I can no longer see circumcision as cosmetic or as if it does not really matter, things that I thought were normal I only realized were problems after I restored and no longer had them, sexual enjoyment is way up. I can't imagine how much better the real thing is.

people have said in relation to sexual pleasure

intact=10

cut=3

restored=7

and from my experience I agree with the cut/restored numbers

let your son have an entire p***s, he only has one life to live, only one chance to feel the full sexual pleasure, if you circumcise him he will never be able to experience it

http://knol.google.com/k/george-hill/cir...

www.nocirc.org