I'm falling apart.. How can I help myself?

Question

I seem to be taking it all at one time.. My husband hasn't gotten his PR.. He's been here in my country and it's not easy to get a PR unless you're holding a really high profile job, which he isn't. Without his PR, he cannot get good jobs either.. and we also can't get a flat of our own. We're now putting up at my mum's.. he hates his job (it has caused him too much stress and he's now gotten high blood pressure, which he never had before).. He even passed out at work and had to be hospitalise.. His company is threatening to get him sacked... And I'm so upset... Another issue is that now I feel so lonely (coz my pals are work are resigning) and suddenly i feel I'm falling apart.. Why do I feel like I have no one to talk to.. I can't concentrate on anything and t everything is just crumbling... How can I make myself feel better and help myself outta this?

Answer 1

No offense but quit feeling sorry for yourself.  It will do no good.  Next step is to start doing something productive.  Why don't you look for a better job or start looking for a way to move away from parents?  You can still always dream about what you want, maybe one day your dreams will come true.

Answer 2

wat u really need now is ur SELF CONFIDENT. u have to pull urself up and move on. nobody can help u except urself. everybody can only give u moral support. dont stay on a hump too long or u will nv get back.

dis is life my dear...d real world. there r up and downs. colleques comes and goes, u cant stop them as they got better prospects elswhere. frds r all around. as for ur hubby, he better off out of his company if he still wan to c daylight. so wat if he cant get his PR or get a better job??? he is still with u by ur side no matter wat, rite?

look around u, there r ppl worst den wat u r going through rite now.

take care and good luck...

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is trust that the Lord will provide but also remember that God helps those who help themselves.  So just try go work as hard as you can and let things roll off your back a little more.  My husband and I lost everything we owned w/three children.  I mean house, cars, furniture  EVERYTHING.  I learned through that how to let things roll off and be appreciative for the things you have like your mothers home to live in and just keep working as hard as you both can.  Your husband may want to try xanax or something that helps him calm down a bit.

Answer 4

I too have a very small circle of Friends. We could be friends?  

Answer 5

Wow... you do have quite a bit going on there.  Keep in mind that you can't do any more than put forth your best effort to try and work everything out.  Remain patient and don't beat yourself up over things that you cannot control.  Everything will come together if you remain focused on the goals that you and your husband have set for yourselves.  If you're finding yourself to be exceptionally stressed, you might consider a visit to your doctor.  He/she may be able to recommend a counselor for you, or to prescribe anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication.  As difficult as it may seem, try to remember to take time for yourself each day.  Even if it's only a 30 minute bubble bath to unwind, do something to escape it all for a bit.  Good luck to you, and I'm sure it will all work out well for you and your husband.