I'm falling for someone older than me.?

Question

Im four years younger than a guy i really like. he likes me to and asked me if i wanted to date him. he keeps telling me age is just a number...i want to believe him. im not sure my parents would be for it. please dont say he's to old for u. we go to the same high school and we are good friends. hes not a jerk thats just going to use me. how can i talk to my parents to show them im mature enough to be trusted to date someone older than me?

Answer 1

4 years is nothing.  My parents are 3 years apart.  My Aunty and Uncle are 6 years apart.

Answer 2

Highschool, I'm guessing you're 14 and he's 18.

I had a similar situation (14/17) several years back. If you two really care about each other, go for it I say. Age IS just number. Maturity is what matters. If your parents give you **** for it point out how many respectable people live love and marry with people many more years apart.

Good luck and love!

Answer 3

When I was in school my 19 year old boyfriend (I was 16 at the time) wanted me to have s*x with him, which I did. I thought I loved him and I wanted to be accepted by him and all of the other BS that comes along with it. I got pregnant had a child at 16 another at 17. I am now a single mother of 2 (kids are now 13 and 14) at 31. I am getting $120 each for the kids..(total $240 a month) which is supposed to pay for what? You need to finish school, go to college. Graduate and get a good job...then think about men and kids. Besides if he gets you into s*x now it is actually considered child molestation.

Answer 4

Go for it, don't be careful around the illegal age though, it is just a number your age, but what the heck if you guys like each other go for it

:)

Answer 5

my wife is 4 years older than me....but we are 31 and 27...but when i was a senior in high school i went out wiht a freshman, of course after very short time her maturity level drove me nuts and i was forced to break it off, but id say just do what you feel is right..its only a meaning less highschool fling anyways, its not like your gonna marry this guy

Answer 6

Just to warn you in advance. If you date this guy you will get alot of c**p from alot of people. Its not usually well accepted when a senior dates a freshman. And usually when you date someone withthat much of an age differences this young, they only want ONE thing. s*x, and if your okay with giving that in WITH PROTECTION then thats fine. But don't let him fool you.

And your parents might not go for this because he is older and they know all he wants is s*x. and they don't want their little girl to have s*x. It comes with a lot of responsibilities and consequences if the responsibilities aren't taken care of.

I would say you go with your gut though, if you like him alot then go for it. But watch your back.

Answer 7

oh well. go out with him. say its not their decision of who u date

Answer 8

If you need your parents permission to date, I'm guessing that you're not very old.  In that case, I can see why they'd say no.  Sorry, I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but older guys in school will have a tendency to pressure the younger girls into stuff they really don't wanna do.  At least, that's how your parents are going to see it.  It sucks, I know, but hey, if you need permission, I guess you live by it until you're out of the house.

Answer 9

Four years is nothing. Convincing the parents...well, that's hard to estimate. It depends on how strict they are about stuff concerning that nature. I don't know them, so it would be awkward to give you sound advice over that.

Answer 10

Four years isn't bad. How old are you like 15/16? That's not bad. And age is just a number, if you both like each other then you shouldn't let it get in the way of your relationship. I would have him come to your house and the both of you should sit down with your parents and discuss it together. Since you say he isn't a jerk then they'll see that and they will be able to ask him questions about himself to get a better feel for who he is.

Answer 11

Wow. You are lucky. There's a guy that likes you and you like him back that doesn't care about age. Oh, and the answer to your question is that you shouldn't tell you parents that you want to date him. Just date him secretly. Until the secret comes out.

Answer 12

First, talk to your parents about the idea of you having love.Be open minded with your parents. If they are alright with you having love, then try to talk to them about "someone" you like. Something like "Mom, I like this guy in my school" blah blah. Tell her why you like him. Then ask opinions on your mom's side and see what she thinks about it.

Your parents do care about you. They tends to get worried in such stuff. So talk about it together

Answer 13

okay

You didn't give us enough info

if you're 50 and he's 54 - no biggie

If your 5 and he's 9... Big Biggie.

Give us NUMBERS not riddles.