I'm feeling hopeless?

Question

I don't know where my life is leading right now.

When I was younger, about 10? I was in primary school and life seemed to drift by much more easily.

Now i've just finished my gcse's and im expecting stuff like b-c's, I know its not bad, but it feels i dont have a 'grip' on my life anymore..

I want a job, but I cant get one...its like im lacking in confidence in everything

when I try to picture my future, it just seems a blur..

should I just go along with it?

I know you all think, bah just another complaining douche..

but, it doesnt feel like that, I cant explan my feelings.

it feels like im a loser, destined to be a down and out,

**** job, **** life.

I don't want it to be like that.

sometimes I want to push myself but just cant, I get a feeling of helplessness and just let things go as they affect my badly and I dont mind but in the long run I will

sorry im just wasting your time

Answer 1

get a counselor NOW!

Answer 2

Talk to someone in person asap!

Answer 3

This is the time in your life when you start feeling pressure, and the need to want to do something. Most people dont know what they want to do at your age. It seems like you will get good results and your panicking or worrying about what the future may hold, beacuse you are now a school leaver into the open world. There are plenty of options for you, you can always change your mind at a later date. Try college, a levels or a btec or apprentiship. See how you get on in different areas and find your talent and then you will start to find your feet and be let into teh right direction. Dont expect to succeed at everything on the first go, it takes hard work and there will always be ups and downs.

The fact that you are thinking like teh above means you know how important your future is, and you fear that you may not make a success of it. some people your age couldnt care less.

You are not destined to be down, if you have been feeling liek this for a long time then maybe see a Dr, but it may be a temporary stage because you are about to get your results and you feel confused at the next step. school is usually controlled, you egt told what to do. Now your in control and it will make you feel uneasy to start with but it will pass.

Youre not wasting anyones time, we are all here to ask q's and answer them, if we didnt want to we wouldnt be on here.

Try college and if you want a part time job, make a good CV, note your expected grades, your interests and you aim for your first employment role. Even if its just in a shop or helping out at a local sports team or something, there is plenty for you to get into.

Look on the internet and apply for positions with a covering letter. There are plenty of resources out there to help you with those. Even first timers and school-leavers.

I felt the same as you did when i was your age... I went completely off path, i kept dropping and changing colleges and jobs because i just wasnt happy there-  but now, its a whole different story.

Good luck and dont ever think youre not good enough. You can do anything.

Answer 4

doonnt worry about wastin time, u can waste as much of mine as u need. trust me, i went through somethin similar but different a few months ago. b's and c's for ur  GCSE's...

THATS FREAKIN FANTASTIC! they're just wat u need to get u any job!

annd stop feelin sorry for urself!

u just need to think that if u dont do somethin about everything now, u will most likely end up sad and lonely for the rest of ur life (sorry, was a bit harsh but that is hopefully the start of that push u need)

and if ur EVER feelin so low that u will probably resort to self harm, go for a walk! think things through! and think of a new way to approach to that problem!!  

Answer 5

You are wasting no one's time so firstly don't you worry about that.

If it helps these feelings are perfectly normal.  I left school with those GCSE grades and then went on to college... didn't want to go but I didn't want a job either.  So I stayed but left after a year.  Then I realised that I really needed my A Levels to do anything I want to do in life.  Eventually I went to university and I have just graduated.  

Getting a job is a hard thing to do.  Trust me I have a degree and I am having troubles finding one.

The way you talk, you could have been me six/seven years ago.  Life seems horrible and pointless.  I know it isn't something a teenager wants to hear but a lot of the feelings are because of hormones not quite being settled yet.

If you want to talk more you can email me and have a good old moan/rant.  Sometimes it can help to talk to someone impartial who has been there, bought the tshirt etc.

Answer 6

I'm in my 40's..got married as a teen, raised 2 kids. didn't start college 'til my late 30's. I never grew up to be beautiful, rich or famous, but I love my life & wouldn't trade with anybody. I have no advice to give you, but I hope you find peace. Sometimes, it's just loving life & enjoying the simple things-a walk on the beach, talking to a friend, whatever makes you smile. God bless.  

Answer 7

i can totally relate to that. I recently found something i really like doing, and maybe someday i can use that to my advantage. I don't want to be stuck in a dead-end job, just because i didn't work hard enough. And I don't want to be just another schmidt on society. I want to be someone.

You'll get there.