I'm forgetting my Dad's voice?

Question

My dad died three years ago when I was 12, and the other day I realized I can barely remember his voice! I feel absolutely awful. I kind of remember him saying "Hey, kid." (LOL he never called me Brynna, he always called me 'kid' or 'punk' or something :] ) But other than that I really don't remember. I feel like a terrible daughter, and I really want to remember his voice, but it feels like something's blocking it out, and I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

don't feel bad. you were only 12 when this happened. just think of him  and see if there a don't worry it is perfectly normal any home videos or something.

Answer 2

Brynna - First and foremost I want to give you my deepest sympathy, losing your father at 12 years old had to be so hard for you, I know it's been 3 years, but, still my heart breaks for you.  Please don't feel like a bad daughter because you cannot remember your Dad's voice.  Voices are interesting because you always remember how someone sounds when you talk to them frequently, but, if time goes by and you don't hear from them, you may forget how they sound.  However, if your Dad were with you right now and he said "Hey, kid", I'm sure you'd immediately know his voice was his.  Maybe as others have said, there are some old home videos or some tape recording of his voice where you can hear it.  If those don't exist, just treasure the memories of your father, you will see him again and hear his voice again...someday.  By the way, my Dad doesn't call me by my name much either, he generally says "Hey, kid." when he refers to me, so, your post made me think of my Dad.

Answer 3

It happens. Maybe you have a home video or somthing that he talks on. But don't feel bad. There is nothing you can do about it. As time goes by you'll forget things. It happens to everybody. So please don't feel bad. It doesn't make you a bad daughter. You were only 12. It just the time that does that.

Answer 4

Why would you feel like a horrible daughter? Its been three years and you were 12 i mean how could you remember. this is totally normal just keep him in your thoughts and it will be fine.

Answer 5

No don't feel bad. It happens to everyone who has lost a loved one. I have lost several close to me and I can hardly remember their voice either. It makes me wish I had some video recordings to watch and listen to of them. But it's completely normal to forget how they sounded or other things. It doesn't mean you are a bad person at all, its just impossible to remember things like that no matter how hard you try.  

Answer 6

healings take time..be kind to yourself

Answer 7

get a new dad.

Answer 8

Time heals...and also lets us forget.  Don't be worried about that!

Your Dad will always be in your heart...ALWAYS!...even if you forget some things about him.

Answer 9

Sweetie ur not a terrible daughter atall, the fact that your thinking about this makes you a brilliant daughter!

Its such a shame that your dad passed away and considering that your so young, and im so sorry for your loss.

Its almost impossible to remember everything about someone and even harder when there not here anymore.

It made me smile when you said about how he used to call you ''kid'' or ''punk'', and to me thats the most important thing, the fact that you  remember the little things he used to say and do proves that you still hold him in your heart.

Try looking back at home videos if you have any or speaking to family members to remember him in other ways.

Please dont feel bad hunnie, im pretty sure your Daddys looking down on you now and is so proud of his little princess. Regardless of your memory, your Dad will always be your Dad and no-one can replace or take that way from you. Thats the only thing that really matters Darling.

Takecare and Godbless <3

Answer 10

Please ignore "endless" - the 1st IDIOT to answer your question.  It makes me mad that "endless" would make a comment like that but hey, some people are just stupid.  Anway, dont feel bad.  As time goes on, you will forget some things.  Your dad knows that you love him and that's all that matters.  And guess what?  One day, (hopefully a long time from now) you'll get to see him, AND hear his voice again.  

Answer 11

first thing i would like to say sorry for you lost. What you should do is watch home videos about him if you have some. So you can remember and look photos about him. You can make a scrapbook so when you older and have kids they can know who he was. You should also ask your mom more about him.

Answer 12

My Dad died too...a long time a go. I remember very little about his voice. But what helps me remember most are pictures of him. I suggest that you get a few pictures of him and keep them close to you...maybe one in your purse (if you have one)...one in your cell phone...etc. That way you might be able to remember him better. Take Care sweetheart

Answer 13

The human memory cannot achieve what you are describing. So you aren't a bad daughter. All that matters is the love, not what the person looked or sounded like. Your dad was funny, and you are a fabulous daughter, I wish you were mine.

Answer 14

Sorry about your Dad.  :-(

No I don't think you're a terrible daughter.  Its been a while since you heard his voice.  Don't beat yourself up.  Maybe you need to close your eyes and just really allow yourself to "daydream" and try to get in touch with a time where you talked to him.  A happy time.  I hope it helps.       ♪

Answer 15

once you start talking about him or going through family albums it will come back to you .

Answer 16

Im so sorry to hear about your dad my best advice is to look at videos and pictures to help you remember

Answer 17

i am sure you have family videos or something that you can play that will remind you. it's natural. people forget things that go away - it has nothing to do with being a good daughter! see if your mom/family has any videos and look at some pics. it may come back with a little reminder.

i'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 18

You are not a terrible daughter.  After 3 years it is hard to remember what his voice sounded like.  You were only 12 at the time of his death.  I was 17 when my dad passed away, and after a while I couldn't remember the sound of his voice either.  It is now many years later, and sometime I can't even remember what he looked like until I get some pictures out.  I think it's a way of time beginning to heal the pain and sorrow of the deaths.  Even though the pain will never completely go away, it will get easier as time goes by.  There will always be days that are harder than others for you.  I'm sorry for your loss, but I truly do understand first hand where you are coming from and how you feel.  Hang in there and I'm sending you a hug!

Answer 19

don't feel bad hun..it happens as people grow up it gets harder to remember things..My step mom died when I was about 12 I think I may of just turned 13..It was hard for me because I was closer to her then my own mom..I don't remember her voice at all..it doesn't mean Im a horrible person..just that Im moving on more.