I'm fourteen and I want a baby.?

Question

I'm fourteen years old and I really want a baby. I can't stop thinking about it. I do know what it's like to have a child, please don't tell me I don't. I babysit my baby cousin Arianna everyday 7am-3pm, and I have kept her overnight. I love her like shes my own I can't stand being without her and I miss her a second after shes gone. I know fully what a baby would be like. I wouldn't have s*x at this age to get pregnant, but I REALLY want a baby. could someone help me? and I don't want a doll that's just like a baby, it's not real so I don't care about the doll. Please :[

Answer 1

just wait i am so sick of hearing this.when i was 14 i didnt care about anything but having fun.if u think havin a baby is fun ur way wrong. this is how a day will go. 4am feed change diaper rock to sleep 6 am feed change rock. 8am wake up feed baby change diaper do laundry clean up play/hold baby. la baby down for nap then again same thing no time for you to even watch tv take a shower.nothing youll be lucky if you get any sleep with all the cryin and gettin up every two hours to change the diapers and thats if your baby comes out healthy.then also say goodbye to gettin new clothes and things for you now you will have to spend it all on your child

Answer 2

wow ur an idiot!

Answer 3

You are going to ruin your life if you get pregnant at such a young age. You are willing to throw your whole childhood away? You have so much time to have a baby....how about finishing school...college so you can find a GOOD JOB..maintain financial stability...a home for the baby..so you can provide for your child and you dont have to live on welfare and expect everyone who works hard everyday to pay for your child because you made such a foolish  selfish choice. What kind of life do you think at 14 you can possibly offer a child when you are still one yourself. There is a LOT more to having and raising a child of your own versuses babysitting. BELIEVE THAT!! And if you seriously think that there isnt, you truly  dont have a clue. Besides, at 14 you shouldnt even be thinking about having s*x!!! Where are your parents and why haven't they talked to you about this crazy thought?? Hope you make the right decision for yourself, but for more then anything the child you are wanting.

Answer 4

Babysitting for a few hours is totally different than having a baby 24 hours a day non stop no matter what.     I think you just like someone to be with you no matter who it is and to fulfill your needs whether you are married or not and that is a sign of selfishness.    You seem to think it is all about you and you are so wrong about this.     Why do you think people wait to get married when they are 25 now?    Because you then have more sense and know more about what you want in life.       I think first you need to take on another person's baby for 24hours a day for just one week, non stop.    Then come back and tell us you want a baby.    That is the kid talking in you.    Don't forget, you are only 14 and your mind does not even get through growing up until you are around 25 years old.      You have alot of growing up to do.    You will HATE it later having a kid at your young age.     You just need parents to understand you and someone to talk to when you get in these crazy moods.     You are just looking for someone to love you and you think a baby will do it for you!    You are sadly mistaken.  

Answer 5

babysitting is no where near being a full time parent. Its really hard. I'm almost 25 with a 2 1/2 year old. you have so much more to do before that part of your life. Focus on your schooling, hobbies, sports maybe. Being a mommy takes away so much of your free time.

Answer 6

Well, that's great that you take such great care of your cousin. How do you care for her every day though? Aren't you in school? Anyway, I always knew that I wanted kids. There's nothing wrong with that, but definitely wait until you are an established adult. You need to make sure you've received your education, have a stable decent paying job...hopefully with benefits, and a stable home. Those things come with time and age. Right now you are only 14, so enjoy your life and see the world, have new experiences, focus on school and work hard to achieve your goals. Everything will come in due time.  

Answer 7

bad idea you cand support a baby only with love how will you pay for everything? stick with your cousin finish school your day will come

Answer 8

It's nifty you've got experience in babysitting, but it's yet to qualify you for motherhood! You only have to baby sit in set hours whereas having a baby is a full time job.

I'm not sure what you can do about it sorry, but I guess a career in childcare is something to think about?

Answer 9

well take the joy of being young ull hav kids oneday just wait and injoy the time babysittin and put sumthin else in ur mind and live ur life then think of kids.hope that helped?

Answer 10

Babysitting is not the same as parenting.   Although you love her as if she was your own, you send her home at night. You watch her in someone else's house, feed her food bought by someone else, and dress her in clothes provided by someone else.   You are not responsible for keeping a roof over her head, food on the table, and wondering how you will pay for the next doctor visit.  It's not that parenting is entirely about money, but you only have limited responsibility for her.  Watch who she calls "mommy".

If you want children, I encourage you to pursue your education so that you can one day afford them. It is my observation that children seem to do better with two parents, so when your education is complete,  I would recommend finding some young man who adores you and is willing to spend the rest of his life with you, for better or worse.  Marry him and have as many children as you would both like.  

Good Luck.

Grandpa

Answer 11

You know having a baby is a very big responsibility.You need to have enough money for the baby's needs like milk,diaper,vitamins, immunization,for the doctor's fee every time you go for a consultation and medicines if ever the baby get sick and money for the child's education when the child gets older.I think for now,you should just be contented babysitting your cousin.Or if not,why don't you try asking your parents to adopt a baby if they can still afford to raise another child.

Answer 12

im 14 too and ima guy and i kinda want a baby too but i think ima wait you should to until you find a guy who wants one too and can take care of it

Answer 13

Adopt an African for christmas

Answer 14

If I were you I would see what could be done about getting into therapy.  And, as much as you know what it's like to be around a baby often, and you know how to care for a baby, do you know how much a baby can cost?  Do you have health insurance that would pay for your babies doctor's appointments, or would you have to go through the state, or worse, have to worry when your child gets sick.  Do you know who would watch your baby while you are at school at work?  How much time would you get to spend with your baby between work and school?

Having a baby is a huge commitment, and a lot of work, no matter how old you are.  But at your age, the odds of you being able to do right by your child would be slim to none.  And while a single mother can do a great job raising a baby, it's much better to have two parents.  The chances of a man who would concieve a child with a fourteen year old, or a fifteen year old being mature enough to be a father are so low!

I understand that when you want a baby, you want it now, and that a doll, or any other replacement is not going to take it's place, but until you have your own place to live, a steady job and are fully capable of raising a child, wait, you will be so glad you did!

For now, maybe find something else to be excited about.

Answer 15

Stick with your cousin for now, you're honestly not old enough for that. Do you have a full-time job, a house, a supportive family, etc. I'm guessing you don't.

You're just not old enough to make rational decisions. Please don't have a baby, do a kid a favor.

Answer 16

Just stick with baby sitting until you are of age.

No adopting or anything.

School is coming here soon, so that should keep you busy.

Answer 17

Get a dog.

Answer 18

listen girl im 14 2 only ima guy and any 14 year old wants a baby but hay u cant have a baby now ur 2 yung and couldnt care for it u'd have 2 drop out of school and ruin ur life for a baby u cant care for and afford it and u'll have 2 get a abortion  so u'll have to wait till ur about 17 with somone who will support u and almost done wit hi school plus u cant have a baby without having s*x