I'm freaked out, please help.?

Question

Ah! I'm 16, and still a virgin. (yeah yeah, I bet your surprised) but anyway, my boyfriend wants to have s*x with me. I want to, but I'm so afraid I won't be good enough. I tried to shave down there, to be prepared, but now it's all red and bumpish..... What I'm too loose? how do you know if you have a loose v****a or not? What if I suck?

Please help!

Answer 1

There's a very simple rule, not only if you're 16, but for your whole life:

If you have any doubts about having s*x, the answer is NO!

That holds true for your first time, and it holds true after your 50th wedding anniversary.  You may sometimes have s*x with your husband when you really don't want to, because you love him and, over the years, he's done many things for you that he didn't want to - but NEVER let ANYONE pressure you into having s*x.  No man is worth that (and I'm a man).

You'll know when you're really ready - you won't have to ask anyone anything - except why it's taking him so long to get undressed.

Answer 2

Eek. Maybe you could just make an excuse not to do it with him?

Answer 3

You are still very young for s*x no matter what you think the norm is.  The bumps have to do with irritated skin cells not weather your "loose" or not.  s*x is a physical act but there are a lot of emotions with it.  You want your first to be with someone who really loves you and you really love him...not to just get it over with.  For a lot of people the first time isn't great.  Good s*x comes with experience and time.  Take it slow.  You have a lot of life in front of you.  Always use protection.

Answer 4

You should be very proud of your self. Being a Virgin is a wonderful thing. You might think your ready, but at your age, he will only be your first, not your last. High school sweethearts who have s*x, do not normally stay together or get married and live happily ever after. Shaving and worrying about being good should not be a priority. Educate yourself. Don't expect him to have condoms. Guys never remember anything. They also don't want to use them. Always use condoms. STD's are real. Sometimes a guy doesn't have signs that they have an STD, and they really do. Be careful.

As for the shaving. If you shave against the hair growth, you cause irritation to the hair follicle. Try using shaving cream to soften the area first. You can also get ingrown hairs, which will cause bumps.I shave in the direction the hair grows, to prevent these problems.

Your a virgin. The reason all guys want virgins is because their tight. Remember loosing your virginity is special to you, but to the guy it's just another score for them. Please think twice about having s*x. This guy will not stay with you too long after you have s*x. They move on tho the next virgin. Guys only like the thrill of the chase, once they win, they lose interest.  

Remember your special and it is a gift to give someone your virginity, don't just throw it away.

Answer 5

Make sure you have lots of privacy for quite a long time (two hours or more is a good idea) because not only might there be some uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments along the way, but there's more to the first time than just "doing it", and you'll have a lot of stuff to talk about afterwards - you do *not* want any of this to be interrupted.

When it comes to intercourse, tell your guy that *you* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if you just chicken out) and that it's up to him to remember that when you tell him "stop".

Don't even *try* unless you're very turned on and very slippery... a couple of orgasms first will also help your v****a to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if you don't get very wet no matter how horny you are, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until you're comfortable.

That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom. Yes, the condom. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents".

Oral s*x is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it. Doing it until the person receiving has an o****m is nicest, but it isn't necessary. (Oh... and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman... there's no need to be shaved unless you like it that way yourself).

Answer 6

its not really up to you if its loose or not, it's up to your body.

first times suck, dont worry, not just you, and finally use a condom!

Answer 7

First off..how did you shave down there? Did you trim with scissors so you wouldn't dull your razor? Did you use plenty of shaving cream? Did you use lotion afterwards? Maybe switch to sensitive skin stuff because your downstairs is pretty sensitive. Okay..as for s*x. Chances are you aren't loose because...well, you are a virgin. BUt you don't sound like you're really comfortable with the idea of having s*x with him. If you're worried about your performance talk with your partner about it, he'll most likely be understanding. If you decide to have s*x with him, always remember safe s*x is the best (well, with the exception of abstinence). You should speak with your parents about birth control and buy some condoms to prevent STD's.

Answer 8

Sounds like you are not ready to do this yet. I know you want to, but you will enjoy it much more if you are not so nervous about it. Just take a little more time. I am not a person who thinks you have to wait til marriage, but I think you should take a little more time. As far as being loose, people come in all different shapes and sizes and this applies to your v****a too. I am sure you are just fine. You will not suck at it. Of course you learn a few tricks as you go, but as long as you try to enjoy yourself and don't just lay there like a dead fish, it will be fine. For the bumps...try a product like bikini zone. Make sure you are using a fresh sharp razor to shave and I find it best to do after soaking awhile in a tub. Obviously use shaving cream. Over time it seems like that area just gets used to being shaved so it doesn't get so bumpy. If your pubic hair is more than 1/4 inch or so long, I find it best to trim it first.

Answer 9

If a guy is having s*x with you, and I'm guessing that he cares about you too, then you don't need to worry. He'll be plenty happy.

Answer 10

RaeLynn,    First of all honey, you are far too young to have s*x, it only takes 1 time and you could get pregnant.  Yes, I know what you are thinking, we will use protection.......but what if that protection breaks?  Believe me when I tell you this, it does happen.  What will you do then?  You need to get the BIG PICTURE of what you are about to do.  Do NOT let a BOY force you into s*x........take your time honey, it is a very special thing to do with the one you love.  Do not worry about if you are too loose.......I don't think I worried about that when I had s*x the first time.  The bumps are caused by a dull razor blade.  You have irritated your skin down there.  I suggest that you NEVER shave that area again.  God gave us hair there for a reason, to fight bacteria from entering us.  Anyway,  think long and hard to what you are about to do, and if you are up to the STRESS of getting pregnant and raising a child then honey, GO FOR IT !!!   I wish you all the luck in the world.     Blessings

Answer 11

Don't do it!