So early on in our marital relationship, my soon-to-be ex took some shots of us where clothing was not a factor if you know what I mean. He also used to videotape us having s*x. Later I found out that he did it almost every time and not the few times I thought he did. Later as things got bad, he taped our fights where I was saying bad things about his mother (for the purpose of sending the recording to his parents and siblings so they would put up a collection for a divorce...which he spent on booze). Now we're separated after I kicked him out & he never wants to divorce b/c his credit is gawd-awful and he's threatened me w/ these tapes if I got a lawyer. So of course I did. But I don't have a lot of money and he is kind of crazy and I don't think he'll hurt me, but he has made it clear that he has no problem sending these tapes out to my employers and colleagues to embarrass me. I don't think a restraining order is necessary at all, but I do want the security of knowing that he can't send those shots and tapes out. Is there any way that a divorce decree can mandate that they be destroyed or something like that?
Other than that issue, it shouldn't be a big ordeal - an early marriage to the wrongest guy on earth who only wanted to use me and cheated on me the whole time. We don't have joint property or kids and he has nothing I want and vice versa (except my credit line, but that's too bad), but this issue has me concerned.
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