I'm getting falsely blamed . please help. ?

Question

My husband and I get into thse stupid little fights all the time these days. We usually just end up ignoring each other . SO we got into a fight about a day ago and we were ignoring each other., My laptop screen resolution thing broke or malfunctioned and so I asked my friend David for help. My Husband walked in after he finished fixing my laptop because he’s really good with computers. SO we were just standing there and about to go doiwnstairs when my husband appeared in the doorway. He suspecting me of cheating oh him even though David was just fixing my computer. I’m getting falsely blamed and it’s so stupid. I tried talking to him and convincing him but he wouldn’t listen. What should I DO? Thanks.

Answer 1

Well I can see where he would get that idea. I mean if I came home and found my husband with another women no matter the situation I'd have that thought too. You should've asked your friend to help you when your husband was around and he knew about it. It's just common sense.

Also, it's not healthy for you and your hubby to ignore each other, you really need to work these arguments out on the spot and not ignore each other. They end up turning into something way more than they need to be like your husband thinking your cheating on him. No wonder he thinks that!  

Answer 2

if you were communicating better this wouldn't be a issue, get talking. (not arguing)

Answer 3

Well I'm married also, first of all. If you are a 100 and 10 percent he's being faithful to you as you are to him, then the saying "When a man is cheating he becomes insecure towards his partner, subconsciously" is not for you, if you do, then that's for you to think about. Apparently he doesn't love you enough to trust you, lack of trust especially when you really aren't doing anything or hasn't done anything is very bad in a marriage, it tears it down, and breaks the love.

If he keeps bickering with you for no reason about stupidness, usually signifies he wants a way out and needs and excuse, or prob just need a break. sit and talk with him, explain how you feel without making him feel pity for you (be strong) and tell him if he needs some time away together or solo, it can be done. or ask him what's really bothering him and assure him that its just you two till the end.

Answer 4

Sounds like your married world was on the rocks anyway and this may have just topped it off. But yes if it was me walking into the room and seeing my partner there with another male, I too would come to the same conclusion and suspect something may be happening. So its up to you to sell yourself and convince him nothing was happening sexually.

Answer 5

This one is tough.   This can possibly be the end of your relationship.  Well, first of all, you know it looks pretty bad right?  I mean imagine if the tables were turned.   I suggest you sit down, quietly, no hostile feelings, keep your voice down, and tell him again.  Tell him it hurts you that he would think that way.   The only way you can convince him is by talking to him.  Over and over again.  Unfortunately, if he lost trust in you, no words you say will help you.   Maybe he is just looking for an excuse to end the relationship??  Make sure he isnt cheating on you!

Answer 6

This just goes to show you that your marriage is in trouble that he is beginning to go off on your without thinking about it clearly. He may be thinking or has cheated too and just wants an excuse for himself. He figures if he blames you for cheating then he won't get caught or in trouble if he is thinking about it or has. Just something to think about.

I suggest getting to marriage counseling asap. You clearly can't solve this problem on your own or else it wouldn't have come down to this.  

Answer 7

Maybe marriage counseling is a good idea.

Or perhaps you shouldn't stay married to a man who doesn't trust you.      If you can't invite people over without causing suspiscion, probably not a good marriage to be in.

Answer 8

Honestly its really hard to say because you know your husband best! but in my opinion all men are stubborn and only believe what they want to.  So if you have no way of proving it, which obviously you don't, i would just tell him straight up i didn't cheat on you, and if you don't believe me thats your problem not mine! Act like you don't care that he believes this.. hopefully he'll just realize that, he's just being stupid and jealous. And realize that you love him, and to leave it alone! :)

Answer 9

a man is quick to accuse when they are trying to cover there own tracks!!!!

Answer 10

have david convince him also.

and show your husband how trustworthy you are.

and if he doesn't believe you...put your foot down.

SHOVE IT IN HIS FACE THAT YOU WOULDN'T CHEAT ON HIM!

also, give him some time to cool down.

because if i were him, id prob do the same thing, haha.

hope this helped.

and LAWTS of luck to you.

Answer 11

Its hard to have friends of the opposite s*x when your married,this was bound to happen,he has probably had suspicions about Dave for a while and never said anything,why does Dave have to fix the laptop upstairs,bring the d**n thing into the kitchen,what would you think if he were upstairs where the bedrooms are alone with a really close girlfriend.

Answer 12

Darlin I am afraid that without trust there is not much hope for your marriage, is it possible that he has been cheating on you? because very often guilty people will try and transfer their guilt onto you. I know this from 26 years with a cheating wife. The fact that you made it easier for him to accuse you, is not so relevant as the constant little fights and no communication he does not want to talk to you so he instigates these situations to keep you distant, he knows how you will react. the fact is that if your not cheating on him, then he is probably cheating on you.

  perhaps you need to see what he has been up to, clearly something is creating all the strife in your relationship, and you must identify that. Good Luck