I'm getting married and I have 2 children 17 & 15.....?

Question

my fiance' has a 16 y.o., my fiance says he thinks only one friend at a time per child should be allowed in our house when we move in together so there wont be so much chaos, I say 2 would be ok per child, what do you think?

Answer 1

I think you are in trouble from the start.  His tolerance level may not be as high as yours.  However you have already discounted it.  At one kid per child, that's 6 kids underfoot   at 2 kids that could be 9 kids in the house.  

That doesn't account for the trials of step-kids under the same roof and a wife who isn't always supportive.   Your real  question  should be about what rules or times when more kids could be excepted.  

Like when one of the kids are visiting ex's or. family, the remaining child could invite another over.

But avoid allowing other kids over because one child doesn't have a friend over.  that could created a power struggle with the other kids

  

Answer 2

alot  kids     be  fine

Answer 3

i think the soon to be hubby is right, just take it slow, your gonna see that just having one kid total over might just might be a pain !!! and congrats on the marriage !!!

Answer 4

If you think you can manage 9 teenagers in a house, go for it!  You could set a limit of kids in the house and see how that works.  Say there can be 6 people there, but if someone spends the night away that makes room for the others to have more friends over.  It'd take a lot of coordination, but they would all appreciate it and its unlikely that they'll all want to bring two people home every weekend.