I'm getting married but I have no clue as to what I am doing, and I can't get parental advice/support. Help?

Question

The date hasn't been set yet, but it probably be in 2010 or 2011. We have no clue how to go about this and need some serious help. I don't know where to look for good advice and neither family is providing enough to get praise or advice at all. Can anyone offer any suggestions at all? I need them desperately, I know it's a long way of but I'm stressing about "deadlines" I have heard about.

Answer 1

You could always get a wedding planner. There are some great sites you could find on google by searching "wedding planner" and your area. Better yet, check the yellowpages. A weddingplanner will help you with the entire wedding, so you won't have a thing to worry about,

Answer 2

How long have you been engaged? My friends' engagements that went longer than 1 or 2 months without a date didn't end up in marriages, fyi.

Why don't you have parental/familial support? Do your parents not approve of the wedding? If they don't approve, it will be worth your and your spouse's sanity to listen to what they have to say. The in-laws will always have influence over your spouse, whether you believe it now or not.

I used a book to help organize our wedding plans: How to Have a Big Wedding on a Small Budget by Diane Warner. It helped a lot!

Best wishes!

Answer 3

pick up a copy of 'real simple' magazine 'weddings'

it really really breaks everything down and its like your own personal reminder because you can write in it and take it with you everywhere. since your wedding is not for 2 years just start clipping out pictures for ideas and start a little wedding binder. it will all eventually come together. the magazine will tell you exactly when to do EVERYTHING.

my wedding is in april and i feel stress free :)

Answer 4

You need to set a plan in action. For a wedding in 2years you really don't need to worry about deadlines much right but just set a budget and save money. Save money for the wedding, honeymoon and obviously for your life together.

For the fun of planning, save pictures and ideas you like. Go to local wedding shows, pick up free wedding planners there, and get lots of neat ideas and learn to do alot of things yourself. Even if you have the money to pay for them, it's always nicer to make them yourself. You'll appreciate them more and every $100 counts and can easily be spent elsewhere.

Here's the budget file I use. Download it and jot everything down: http://www.vertex42.com/Links/go.php?url...

Here's an online wedding planner: http://www.blissweddings.com/wedding_pla...

Also since you have plenty of time, work on your relationship with your family and friends. You'll really need and want their support for now and ever.

All the best and good luck.

Answer 5

As a previous person stated go to theknot.com because it will help give you timeline so you can set deadlines. You can buy wedding planning books but I would check out the library first because it's free. Shop around and surf the web to find out what you want and how much everything will cost. The biggest thing that you need to do is set a date, budget, how many people will be invited, and getting the place. The dress is important too but you need to get the other stuff together first. I hate to see brides wearing big formal dresses at outdoor wedding or informal dresses in large formal churches. Good luck!

Answer 6

Hi, I hope this helps! I agree that you should probably get a lot of help from "The Knot" web site. Being a professional calligrapher, I used to advertise on that site, before I got my own web site going.

By the way, if you would like your invitations done in calligraphy, you can always contact me on my web site (which also features a couple of samples of my work), shown below. My prices are reasonable and I work flexibly with my customers when I know they are on a budget. I also work nationally, as well as locally.

Also, what may be of big help, is if you are able to hire a wedding / event planner. I work with one and the job gets done well and efficiently!

Answer 7

Consult your girlfriends, especially married ones...

and go to the library......

Answer 8

Try www.theknot.com this will help you with all the details.

The big "deadline" is a venue. Many book at least a year in advance. Once you book that...everything else will start to fall into place. Goodluck!  

Answer 9

you just need to relax,start reading all the wedding magazines and seeing what you like and don't like.If you're at all crafty you can make your own centerpieces,decorations etc.take your time it only takes a year to plan a wedding if you take your time.Once you've got the date set, you need to decide where and reserve it.then you can get better idea of how to decorate,what to get etc..bubbles.bird seed..,see what the place allows(you can make those ahead of time )plan where to have reception and reserve it.then you can make appts. with cake people and look at their catalogs and get prices shop around, get that ordered.decide on brides maid etc.if any and ask them. then you and your bridesmaid party go shopping for a wedding dress.If your budget is tight, I've seen beautiful dresses at the goodwill. you can have them cleaned and pressed for $100.00 or so.pick the girls dresses to go along with your color shceme.you get those girls a gift too .sooo much  

Answer 10

First of all, calm down and take a deep breath. You will get through this, even without parental advice. I am planning my own wedding for May 2010 and want to do it without asking our folks for money. theknot.com has a great checklist, budgeting tools (although I like the budget tool on brides.com better), a guest list manager, etc. etc. There's LOADS of advice on there.

Just FYI - the only 'to-do's they gave me to tick off for this whole month are to 'think about' the dress I want and about my guest list and colors that I want. It's very low stress.

Answer 11

you need a date first you cant do ANYTHING with out having a set date.  how do you book a place or a dj or food and prices can be very different at different times of year even from week to week.. first get a date then figure out your actual budget, find the place and every thing else will fall into place.    and i agree with your families your to young  

Answer 12

Look into buying some wedding planning books.  They usually have a bunch of checklists, ways to save money, etc.  

First things first, you need a date.  From there, you pick your church (if you want) then reception hall.  After that is figured out, everything else falls into place.

Good Luck!