I'm getting married soon, is it ok to be jittery; Is it nomral to feel nervous?

Question

Sometimes I wonder if i'm doing the best thing. How do I calm these feelings, because they might not be behind anything really......is it?

Answer 1

Hi,

this is Sophie and I am a wedding planner.

It is completely normal to be nervous. You are making a decision to live your life with an other person in good and bad until death do you apart.

Try the fallowing relaxation techniques to calm you down.

- Lay on your back and think about the good times you had with your fiancee!

- Go to the gym, work out!

- Go take some dance lessons!

- Take your dog to the beach and play with him - as he wants to play!

- Spend a lot of time with your Mom. Ask her how she felt, how her wedding preparation went etc.

- Go out with the girls!

Good Luck!

Sophie

Answer 2

Of course thats normal its just nerves your probably just worried about everything going right and it will so relax Breath and just have fun its your day and you have nothing to worry about. (It happens to everyone)  Congrats

Answer 3

It's your mind reflecting over everything and reflecting is totally overwhelming!

You are asking yourself am I ready for this? is this the right guy for the next 50 yrs? did I plan everything right? is my crazy aunt susan going to make a scene? etc....it all hits you at once and it drives you batty!

Relax,,,,,you said yes, you planned everything well and it's just one day out of the year and no different than the rest when you look at the bigger picture.

Sit back and enjoy as too many nerves won't let you enjoy the moment!

Answer 4

It's perfectly normal to be nervous. But if your feelings of uncertainess are strong, you should reevaluate your situation, if you really love this person and are willing to commit to spend the rest of your life with them

Answer 5

Hi there i too am getting married next month and also feel nervous but its natural to feel this way.Have got my hen do this weekend and bought loads of hen bits from a great site www.privatedelights.co.uk .This is great for any hen and cheap too!!!! Don't worry your big day will be great!!!!

Answer 6

Your answer is in your question, You are wondering if this marriage is ithe best thing for you.

Answer 7

I have the same problem.  But I get jittery over a lot of things... some people are just naturally more anxious than others.  Try replacing those "what if" statements with more positive ones. I started to realize that the reason I was so unsure was because I kept thinking up all these ridiculous things that "might" happen.  If you love this person and you want to be with that person more than anyone else.  If you think about them all the time and they treat you well and you can work through problems, stop worrying!  Sometimes you just have to jump and trust that you are going to be okay.  It's called FAITH.  Study it.

Answer 8

Well, only you know if you are doing the right thing.  But I think it's perfectly normal to be nervous.  I always say that if you are getting married and you don't at least question your decision once, you aren't taking it as seriously as you should.  It is a huge decision, think it through, but if you think it's right, don't let the nerves stop you.

Answer 9

"Sometimes I wonder if i'm doing the best thing"

You need to explore this by:

Talk about this to a couple people who will LISTEN to you for like an hour...not just say "it'll be okay."

Get 5 pieces of paper, write "I feel..." and keep writing until the entire 5 pages are full. Don't worry about reading them afterwards. Just fill them out. You'll break through a couple layers of feelings and see if there are any real issues here. And there doesn't have to be any real issues...it could just be cold feet.

Answer 10

well of course its normal to feel nervous and jittery! your excited!

Answer 11

its normal to be like that before the wedding day, just be sure you are doing the right thing as its meant to be forever & devotion & love, maybe you have not been together long enough & thats something telling you to give it a little more time.

Answer 12

You should think about what is making you nervous and jittery. A marriage is a big commitment and represents a big change in your life - it's very normal to be nervous about it because it's new and you don't know what the future will bring. It's also normal to be nervous about the wedding - you want everything to go well, it's nervewracking to have everyone watching you, and so much work goes into the planning and arranging.

But if you're nervous because of real issues with your fiance - you don't communicate well, or you disagree on important things like whether or not to have kids, or if you feel you may not be making the right decision, you may want to go (alone or with him) to a couples counselor or a trusted minister, who can listen and offer you some guidance.

You're the only one who knows whether you're feeling nerves or serious misgivings.