I'm getting old....so what?

Question

My daughter says she's sick of my dening it. I don't...I just deny ACTING old. I'm sorry to make this lengthy, and while I'm not 'venting'...I've been asked before---'why didn't you explain that?'...So, here goes:

By this, I don't mean I act too young, I don't dress inappropriately,..I just refuse to ACT really old, and I'm blessed with genes so I don't LOOK real old. I still have my hair low-lighted and high-lighted, rather than be a 'Qu-Tip"..and when people talk on the phone with me, they say I sound about 20 years younger than I am. But, my daughter is MAD at me once again, bcz I told her a housecoat she wanted me to wear, wasn't 'me'...She got mad and said, "WELL! you ARE that age! WHY ARE you in constant denial about it?".. I said, "I'm not...but why do I have to dress & act like your g'ma.?...I just won't allow anyone or anything to 'pidgeon-hole-me' to a certain YEAR of AGE!! (i'M AN OLD HIPPY!).

She wants me to admit my age...& I'I wonder---WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT FOR PPL TO KNOW THIS...& I refuse to say! & this makes her FURIOUS! Why?

....so now I'm getting Texts..with "WTF" starting out (my cellphone co. shows the start of the msg)..& she knows I hate texts bcz I have a bad neck..& when I saw the "WTF"--- I just deleted it, and I called her (she refuses to answer...letting it go to VM), and I said, "Hon, I'm only going to be here another week plus"...

(I'm moving back home after 1-1/2 yrs), & I said (in the VM) "& this seems like a terrible way to spend what little time we have left, but you know I hate texting, and when I saw the "WTF", I had no incentive to read more, so it's gone---texting is NOT communication! It's ONE-WAY. Please phone me so we can TALK. All I want you to do is show me a little more respect, and allow me to be myself...and not push me into a home for old people!"

I know I'm getting older and I know people can SEE this....I just don't think I need to use a Walker yet...and when I do, maybe a fashionable CANE will work as well? THAT's my style. But, HOW OLD I AM?...it's no-one's dam business! That I am getting old, SO WHAT?---aren't we ALL!? ...and it sure beats the alternative!!!

Answer 1

she needs to spend a week at my place - i ACT young - my kids like it most of the time! sont let her get to you - she is a teenager (dont forget they no everything)

Answer 2

You are never old. Please think positive I am always young than other

Answer 3

Theres nothing wrong with not being an old hag its a great thing your not because you need to have the most fun you can have before you really cant do a lot of things just have fun your daughter will find out when she gets a little older just have fun in life and use your energy dont put it to waste

Answer 4

She has no right to make you feel bad about your age., or to call you old. she should mind her own business. like you have no right to make her feel bad about her age by constantly calling her an immature kiddo. so talk to her abt this. tell her, you are the way you are. she should be happy that her mom feels young and fresh. the day you'll start feeling old, you'll probably become really sick and weak.

my mom wore real bright colors and bright red lipsticks till 55 yrs of age, me and my older sister always encouraged her,  we felt so happy to see her happy. we even did her facial regularly, colored her hair, tried our best to make her feel younger and healthier. now she's 65 and has stopped wearing bright lipsticks. it breaks my heart. coz now i know she FEELS old. so you see, love is not only words. when we love someone, we let them be whatever way they feel their best. tell your daughter that.

i guess ur daughter is still a teenager and probably a bit immature. good luck!

Answer 5

She should be thankful that you do not complain of all your aches and pains.  That you get up and go and enjoy life, that is if she would stop making reminding you about how old you are.

Age is how you feel not the number of years you are.  You are as old as you feel.  If you don't feel old than you are not old regardless of your age.  Your daughter needs a wake up call.  Take her to a nursing home and let her see  what an old people is like.

My daughter is the opposite, she tells me I'm not so old and why do I feel bad all the time and get all the disease's her children bring home from school.  So no matter what we mother's do or think it's not good enough for our daughters.

Your daughter wants you to look and feel old and my daughter wants me to look and feel young.  Now isn't that a kick in the head?  She keeps asking me why My hands and head shake, how should I know they just do it.  I think she believes I do it on purpose, but you can't do something like this on purpose.  I have ask my doctor about it but he was not concerned about it so why should I be and why should she be?

Yes we mother's go through a lot with our daughter's.  God bless our son's for taking us as we are and not trying to change us.

You are young at heart.  I think I will go out and buy me a fashionable cane.  I do need one from time to time but I use the one my husband used when he was still alive.  I need one of my own and I think I will buy me a pretty one.  Thank you for memtioning it.  Stay as young as you can and don't pay any attention to your daughter.

Blessings!    

Answer 6

I'm with ya there girl! I'm 30, and still get ID'd frequently. I've even had sales people to tell me I need a new hairstyle in order to look "my age". I wasn't aware that each age had rules regarding how a person wore their hair, dressed.. or acted (as long as they're still being mature).

Now a days, when told that I just don't look the age it plainly states that I am on my license.. I smile, and say "Thanks, I know I'm blessed. I'll still be looking good when I'm 50."

Heck, even my mom, who is a grandmother to 12, still looks, and ACTS young, and ya know what? We kids LOVE it! She's a hoot to run around with. The grandkids love it as well, because while other grandmothers are sitting knitting, their grandma is out playing with them loving and LIVING her life.

Time to tell your daughter this:

We ladies don't get older, we just get better! We leave the aging to the men. No offense fellas.

Answer 7

Ma am, you are acting immature.