I'm getting to the point where I'm starting to hate going out in public, b/c I don't like/trust people. Help!?

Question

Is that normal? I mean I literally just hate going out anywhere, supermarket, mall, even the highway ,because all I experience is other people, and it's hard to really trust anyone. So much drama happens, and I've had bad experiences so,

all I keep thinking is, some weeks I'll just stay in, and send my friends/roomates, whoever, partner even to go out and get some groceries for me because I just dont' want to DEAL with other people.

It's not even so much that I don't trust or like them as much as....other people just ANNOY me.

It's like, I've already spent YEARS coming to my own epiphanies, conclusions and opinions about life and people, only to have to go out there every now and then and have it all repeatedly be destroyed by the idiocy of the general public.

So I've came to the point where, I don't like to expose myself to the BS anymore, and have decided to try to avoid it as much as possible.

Is this okay or healthy, or is there something wrong w/this?

Answer 1

In general you need to honestly assess your situation. If you are 1))functioning (working regular job, married/socially adept, being a part of a community, etc.), AND 2)) happy/content with who and where you are, AND 3)) you would like to see this same picture in five years from now, then it is fine.

I must tell you that one of your sentences screamed out to me in the following manner;

So I've came to the point where, I DON'T LIKE TO EXPOSE MYSELF and have decided to try to avoid PEOPLE as much as possible.

That came across as fear.

If it is fear and/or you aren't happy with your situation you will want to receive professional counseling to help sort things out.

WHY?

Well, if your life is a car, it's time to get out from the trunk, put yourself in the drivers seat, and give yourself the opportunity to enjoy life-which includes making mistakes.

In the meantime, I challenge you to try hard to learn something from everybody you meet. I have learned some interesting things from all types of people.

Answer 2

You are not alone. Every time I have to go to Wal-Mart I find myself repeating over and over, "I hate Wal-mart!" because I'm tired of it, too. I'm tired of bad service, crowds of people bumping into me, and waiting in lines 12 people deep to check out.

So I try to find alternatives to dealing with Wal-Mart by shopping elsewhere when I can. Wal-Mart is a necessary evil for toilet paper, paper towels, and the like, but I can balance out the trauma by going to a smaller store I do like that is less crowded for things like my sewing and art supplies. And since I live in a small town, I can finish with my shopping errands in about 2 hours or less and then go home to peace and quiet again.

My house is in a crappy neighborhood, so I balance that out by volunteering at my community college farm and greenhouses where I can work with plants all day long and not deal with too many people.

And I read books for entertainment when tv gets to be too much stupidity and not enough real information.

In other words, I deal with the world and when I go home I shut the door and shut the world out. I shut off the tv and shut off the computer and do things like read books or sew projects or paint crafts and mind my own business. I shop at small stores when I can to avoid the big box stores and shop online even more to avoid the lame stores that don't sell what I want at the price I want to pay.

I really get a kick out of being overly polite when I am dealing with people these days. Ever tick people off by driving the speed limit and using your turn signal? Try being polite, excessively polite in public, and see what happens! You can mentally subtract IQ points if you like, or you can take it out by watching college football and joining in the cross-town rivalries or ice hockey or something, where you can slam the goons into the boards and it's all part of the game...

Answer 3

I feel the same way you do. I'm able to control it though. I have to in order to function.