I'm going into 9th grade and here's my goal for the year. Any suggestions?

Question

okay i know i shouldnt worry about this but my goal is a boyfriend. i've never had one before. or even a first kiss but i have tons of guy friends but no guys ever look at me as more than a friend.

i play softball, i do track, i play the trumpet, i play guitar, and all my friends *guy and girl* tell me what good advise i give, and i'm really nice *well at least i think so*and my house is the hang out after school cuz i live so close that we walk. so guys should dig me right? well aparently they dont. how can i change that this year.

ps the sooner the better!

pps no i'm not ugly

Answer 1

If I were you, I would think of a long term goal. Work on a short goal that helps build your future. That might sound crazy but, I'm a going junior this year. I know what it likes on the first year of highschool. I know what it's like being a freshmen. Wanting a bf, is important sound as first. However, when you realize what it means getting into a relationship, it's going to be hard to get out.

I've never being in a relationship, and never knows what it like. However, I seen so much people depressed with these kinds of things that affect your future. If you going to have one, at least think twice before acting on your own.

Answer 2

Going into high school is definitely a stressful time...friendships, sports, schoolwork, & everything else merges into one giant area of panic. Plus, with everyone around you getting boyfriends or girlfriends, you start to feel like you should follow suit (& at times may wonder why it's not something happening for you).

I remember exactly what that was like for me : four years of being a really great student, a really great friend, giving really great advice, being good at my sports, being big in the "social scene"....& stressing about why I didn't have a boyfriend, & how to get one.

As you know, things like that never change. Relationships are a huge part of things, & somehow everyone around always seems to be in one.

The best advice I can give you :

Don't try to force anything, just be yourself & let it happen.

Some people say "things happen in their own time". Going off of that, just keep being your same great self. A lot of guys in this time of their life are learning things the same way you are....in their own time. It doesn't mean that no one likes you, but don't go throwing yourself at the first person you think does.

If nothing else, take it from me...I totally rushed into a relationship with this guy after I graduated high school, stayed in it for awhile & got engaged, then broke it off months later when I found out he'd cheated.

I moved, spent a few months "recovering", started talking to a really great guy, after a year we decided to go into a bf/gf relationship with each other.....& almost a year later we're still together, just taking it as we go.

Sometimes things in life happen merely to become learning points for the future...because I used to rush into things, I've learned to take my time & not force anything. Thanks to that, I've become a successful, (almost) 22yrs old, woman who's managed to find someone I love completely....& whom I don't mind taking my time with.

Take your time. The next four years will go by faster than you realize.

Focus on being your own wonderful self & having the fun you're meant to have in high school.

The most important thing to remember, is that whoever you end up finding should be someone who wants/loves you for you, & not what for they want you to be.

Answer 3

You will get a boyfriend or more then 1 ...just trust on yourself ....ok just be yourself when you like I guy ..don't act like somebody else..ok...hey could you guys answer my questions please

Answer 4

its not going to work. you cant really plan it. just relax! im going to 10th and havent had a boyfriend yet.

maybe what your problem is that you think wayyyyyyy to highly of yourself. if you were that good then you would have a boyfriend wouldn't you?

Answer 5

Take out some current interests and add the interest of chasing a boy, then you can focus on it.