I'm going into foster care??

Question

i'm 14, what are my chances of getting adopted and about how often will i get moved from home to home??

and if you don't like a home how do you get out of it? can you act up and make them not want you? [sorry i know that sounds rude, but i was just wondering?]

Answer 1

Bad news.  Chances are you will not be adopted.  No-body wants teenagers.  You will either be put into a group home or move around in different foster homes.

And yes, if you act-out they have the option of getting rid of you.  In general, you may have some choice of where you go.  For example, since you are older, the workers might want you to meet the foster family first and get your impression and the foster family's impression.   BUT, that does not mean ****, because they may stick you where-ever they can.

You will get moved as often as the families decide they don't want you anymore.  Sometimes I was in a foster home for a couple of months, sometimes I was in a foster home for a couple of years.  If the family moves, you will get sent back.  If the family has problems and can't deal with you anymore, you will get sent back.  If the family does not like you, you will get sent back.

I hope that this is a serious question and not a joke.  Because foster care is NOT A JOKE.  It sucks.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you even have to go through what you're going through. I think you'll be very lucky to go into a home. Usaually they put you into a group home. Don't act up. Just let your social worker know your not comfortable in the home. good luck

Answer 3

If youre in foster care you will be sent from family to family until a home for you is found...on some occasions a foster family may grow attached to you and adopt u.  I think at your age the authorities will ask u if you want to stay with the family.  Id advise you not to act up because the runner of the system may start telling families that you act up then they nobody will want to adopt u.  Keep your hopes high and be positive through this sad time.

Answer 4

Due to your age your chances of getting adopted I am sorry to say are probably not that high. Do not lose hope you could come across someone who is looking to adopt a teenager. If you don’t like a home do not act up simple contact your social worker and tell him or her that this household is not working out for you and that you would like to be moved as soon as they have another available foster family. If you act up  they will likely have to add it to your record and notify any future foster parents or potential adoptive parents about your behavior.

Good Luck more people should adopt teens they need homes too. I am very seriously considering adopting a teen or two if able once i'm in my late 40's early 50s.

Answer 5

Foster care is no piece of cake. You really really really need to think about this. I read that your mother is giving up her rights. Is she capable of raising you? whats going on that she's surrendering her rights to her 14 y/o daughter? what is happening? I'm concerned about you. Foster Care isn't fun. Its not a walk in the park. Life is unpredictable for many and scary as well. You need to be really really careful. You have no other family to care for you? friends you can stay with? your chances of being adopted, aren't that great. Many youth age out of the system. Whats going on with your mom that she's surrendering you? please contact me.