I'm going to a funeral this week....

Question

and I get really upset at them but I want to stay strong for my friends, what can I think of to keep my mind off whats going on around me?

Thanks for any advice x

Answer 1

I'm sorry for you loss. I would suggest you talk about the person you lost in a positive way. Think of all the good things about them and the time you spent together. If you get out of control go outside and cry, then pull yourself together and come back. I'm really sorry you lost someone. When someone dies the grief we have is about our lost not the lost of the person. It really is. You will have to go through the five stages of death. Just be tender with yourself and get support. Chin up kiddo.  

Answer 2

remind everyone that the person that has died wants you all to be happy and enjoy your lives, don't waste a single second in misery and live it for that person too.  

Answer 3

funerals are for crying, saying goodbye and letting it all out, just be yourself and let nature take its course

Answer 4

First of all, be yourself. If you feel as though you will be upset then don't hesitate to show emotion. It's difficult to think of something else when this service will be dedicated to the deceased. I have lost a great number of my family and friends. I have also spoken at many funerals. From that, I did include humorous times I had with that person, told jokes and funny stories that made others feel more at ease. But I also spoke of poignant times, of serious moments we shared when all the laughter was silent. I also invited others to not take life or others such as friends and family for granted and to appreciate others for who and what they are in relation to your own life. Again, just be yourself. If you feel like crying, cry. If not, don't. If you feel like walking out, do it. If you feel like holding a hand or to give someone a hug, do it. There is no proper way to behave at such an uncomfortable circumstance. Just be you. That's all you can be expected to be.

Answer 5

don't feel bad about getting upset at a funeral...that is normal.  You can still offer  your support to your friends...I assume they are they family of the diseased?  There won't be anything you can say or do to make them feel better, but just them knowing you care and that  you are there for them if they want to lean on you emotionally or physically.