I'm going to abandon my wife?

Question

I'm packing up my things and going to leave her and don't care what she does. She has no car, job, no money....it's not my problem anymore and she knows this. I'm through playing games.

She doesn't want to work that's her problem.

Can I legally do this?

Answer 1

You can legally do this, but when you go to get a divorce, the judge may not look very kindly on you for doing it.  

Answer 2

Sure you can leave her. But the courts will make you pay. Good luck

Answer 3

Well, if you've discussed together that she needs to work and have a job and help support the family and she chooses not to (not for the purpose of raising kids) then sure, I'd leave. But, if she has children that are young, then you could be considered abandoning them.  

Answer 4

I think your a jerk. Put yourself in her shoes been there done that. It only made me hate him more. The only difference was he left me with 3 kids no place to live no job. I did have my own car like that really makes a difference. I think if you want to leave her you should consider her feelings just a little. It will make it easier on you both in the long run. Dont mean to come off as a b but I've been there.

Answer 5

it is depending on where you live.

from where i am that mean you have to pay alimony.

mean the cost of her expensive. even taxi for her to go out with her date.

Just beware  

Answer 6

I think so.

Answer 7

Wow  

Answer 8

if she doesn't want to work things out, you are entitled to leave. she'd surely be surprised. however, dont be surprised when she tries to take you to court. some women have a big talent of taking a large majority of money. if she will do this, i suggest YOU go to court first and explain what youre about to do. and explain why youre leaving so you can be ready to go.

Answer 9

I guess the "for worse" part was an optional part of your promise to her?

I don't know if you can legally do it but it's a pretty mean thing for you to do.

Answer 10

Legally and morally are two different things.  If you are married, did you ever take your vows seriously?  If you did, have you tried everything to make it work (counseling)?

Answer 11

It's probably a good idea if you get a divorce first.  If you two have a joint account of some sort, bank, credit cards, etc.  She can ruin you credit in pay back.  Do you own a house or an apartment?  She can do a lot of damage in a house.

Answer 12

You can do anything you want to do.  However, you don't mention any details - whether children are involved, etc.  

Answer 13

yes you can if there is a house involved make her move

Answer 14

Leave her

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Answer 15

Olivia J is right... even if you're in the right, which sucks.

Hopefully you don't have kiddos.  If you do, they'll suffer the absolute most.  I know this because this is what my father did.

Do what you've gotta do and good luck!

Answer 16

Get a lawyer, get your **** together, or else you'll be paying out your nose...its called Alimony!!

Answer 17

I understand how that can be very frustrating... I hate it when women think that it should be ALL on the husband when obviously, most families these days need to have both husband and wife working in order to survive. That's why I don't want kids....  

So yes, if you're living in sh*t and things are escalating, even getting violent, get out.

Answer 18

I don't blame you and I am a woman.  Tell her that this is not the 50's anymore and to make a marriage work it takes 2 to make a decent living.  Life isn't like the Brady Bunch and I love Lucy.  My husband is a lawyer and even my pay helps.  I took al little time off, but I am ready to go back to work because I love my career.  We had the luxury to let me devote time at home.  I think he is privately relieved that I want to go back to work.  Thats OK because I was raised with strong work ethics.

Answer 19

Yes you can. But tell her that you will file for a divorce.

Answer 20

As long as there are no kids involved, you are unmarried and don't own the house that you'd be leaving, i'd say go for it, don't let a woman walk all over you.

Answer 21

yes sir you can but file your divorce asap

Answer 22

I'd dump her,but she'll probally come after you for money and the bad thing is she'll probally get it.

Answer 23

you can do this legally but now it depends on your conscience i hope you that if you have children with her you don't abandon them

Answer 24

Not the best idea for when you file for divorce. The judge won't look favorably on your abandonment.  

Answer 25

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Answer 26

You need to calmly tell her that you are going to give the marriage a break until she gets a job and grows up. You don't need to get involved in a new relationship or anything. If you play it serious, she may put her big girl pants on and do the right thing. Don't worry about what the divorce lawyer says. A divorce is going to suck no matter how it goes down.

Answer 27

you have a good voice>i like the song.

Everybody gave you right and good options already so just do what you think is right

Answer 28

It is called abandonment

Linda

Answer 29

She can file for divorce on abandonment charges, and you will be responsible for paying for her lawyer because you left her. If you leave her in the learch, you will pay and pay dearly.  You can leave her.  There is no law that says you have to stay with her, but if she doesn't work, you will end up paying alimony because you left her.  Make your move, bucko.  

Answer 30

Yes.

If you want to get a divorce I think you have to file for one... but you have to live seperatly for 1 year. It would be a good step towards that. Tell her first though.

Answer 31

your best bet is to file for divorce.  when you abandon then you risk losing your claims on marital property and you may have to pay spousal support for a limited time as well (if not until she remarries--and if she really is unwilling to work then she may not remarry if she can use you as a meal ticket)

so you could be doing yourself more damage in the long run if you abandon her.  Talk to a divorce lawyer and find out what your rights are and what you risk losing if you abandon her.