I'm going to be temporarily caring for my granddaughter who is 1 and a half yrs. old?

Question

my youngest daughter who is 8 yrs old is extremly rediculously Jealous, i cant believe how she is behaving saying things like,you love her and not me and every imaginable version of that .i need help advice or lecturing stratergies that work please

Answer 1

Tell her that they are both important to you.

Dont treat them any differently.

Explain to her it's only temporary

Maybe they will learn to love each other.

If I was you, I would just give it time.  (:

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Answer 2

Remind her that you have enough love for everyone!  And that they're both precious and special to you in different ways but that you can't weigh the love.

Show her physically using your hands as weights and say "hmm who do I love more.. " move your hands up and down and up and down and say "opps I can't weigh it.. cause they're equal!!"  

and give them some big grandma/mama hugs!!

Answer 3

I was the same way.  My mother cared for my younger cousins (ages 2 and 4), when I was around 8 years old as well.  It was so tough for me to see my mom hugging and kissing them, when she was my mom!  What helped me a lot was spending time with her JUST US TWO.  She would do this frequently, whether it was a quick walk to get ice cream, or seeing a movie.  She would stress that she couldn't wait for our "trips".  She told me how much she loves spending time with me, etc.  As long as I heard my mom tell me how much she loved me and acted like it, I got over it.  I was still a little jealous, but this helped substanstially.

Answer 4

Get your daughter to help "babysit" your granddaughter.   Have her sit on the floor and play blocks or other toys with her (you should be watching, of course!).    Let her help you make the baby's food, and give it to her.    Go for a walk together, and let your daughter push the stroller.   Her protective instincts will be aroused, and she will get to love her little niece.  Tell her she's a wonderful auntie.

Be sure to put the baby to bed earlier than your daughter, so you'll still have some time alone with her.

Answer 5

Ask for your  daughters help..Explane to her what a tough responcibility it is to have a child..Tell her why you are helping out.. Ask if she could help you bake special cookies and help her see the good side of having the grandbaby around.

Take some time when the baby is gone and tell your daughter you would like to do something special now that the sweet baby is not in the  way.. Say I love you often.

Answer 6

i would sit your daughter down and calmly talk to her about the situation. tell her that you noticed she was upset and since she was 8 now, you thought that she was ready to talk about things and understand more. make her feel like she really growing up.

explain to her that it is ok to be jealous, that is normal but she has no reason to be. love is something that you have endless amounts of. you do love your granddaughter as much as her, but not any more. the baby has not taken any love away from her.

tell her that by her feeling this way, she is basically saying that her niece doesn't deserve as much love.

ask her to sympathize with the baby. she is little, now she is being cared for by granmom, and her aunt is upset that she is there.

at the end, say now that we have discussed this, i do not want to hear any of the comments anymore. if you have something to say, do it now.

she knows what you expect so she will probably listen.

good luck. sd