I'm going to college,but I have a problem.PLEASE HELP!!!!?

Question

My parents have always had me going to this Christian college for pretty much my whole life.Problem is,I don't want to go there.It's academics are under par.They aren't accredited.And worst of all,their rules are so strict.Bodily contact is not allowed(not even a handshake,or if a girl falls,you cant touch her to help her up.).You must have a pass to go off campus.You can be "campused" which means if you break enough of the schools ridiculous rules,you are not allowed to even speak to anyone for however long the administration deems is appropriate.There's worse,too!I don't want to go there.It's like a prison!They even have barb-wire fences!!!My parents are making me go though.They wont help pay for my education if i don't go where they want me too.Not to mention what it would do to my family.I'm already slated for my freshman year,but I'm thinking about just s******g it and transferring after my freshman year.What do you think I should do?Please help me!!!The name is Pensacola Christian College.

Answer 1

As local Pensacolians, many of us refer to PCC as Pensacola Christian Cult and laugh at the whole "school". Students are required to travel in "packs", cannot date the opposite s*x, girls must wear skirts, dresses, no pants, shorts, etc. No denim on the guys, no athletic shoes. The list goes on and on. Some people love the education, others hate the discipline. Sounds like you hate it all.  GET OUT !!!  With it not being accredited, you are wasting your life.  Call your parent's bluff and just say fine, I'm dropping out of college if you won't help me change.  Furthermore, there are grants and assistance out there if your parents won't help you. Personally, the whole thing drives me nuts and I've disliked that whole school since they were only an elementary level school. My opinion...P.S. By the way, I DO love Pensacola and it's beaches though...

Answer 2

The lack of accreditation is a real problem... and it really sounds horrible.

Start shopping for a community or other college that will work for you. Get a transcript. You are out of your parents' house, so it shouldn't be too tough to move out of that facility and find a college with dorms.

If your tuition is paid for this semester, you can probably get it back. Get them to cut you a check.

If your parents give you a check for the tuition to take to them, get another blank check for books. Tear up the one for tuition and use the one for books to fund a semester at your community college. You may not be able to expect to get any help from them after that. You will need to get a part-time job and get some school loans going for you.

This is about your freedom and your future. This funky little institution is not going to do it for you.

Answer 3

It looks like you're in a sticky situation.   I think you should look at what you really want in the long term.  The most important thing is that you want a degree from an institute of higher learning.  If you have the opportunity and desire, you should never stop learning, since it will help you in the long term.

You can attend for a semester or year and then transfer. If you are dead-set on not attending this university and cannot attend another university without your parents' financial support, maybe you could look into a local community college and fund it with your own funds. (work/school)  If you have the drive and dedication to pursue your education regardless of your barriers, I'm sure your parents will see this and will turn their views around.  Most important thing, is to have an alternative plan.

You're ready to explore the world and experience it.  They're scared to loose their precious innocent child.  Whatever you choose, I wish you best of luck.

And I did check out the website - not exactly UCF, known for being a party school. haha.  :-)

Answer 4

Transfer as soon as you can

you want the credentials to be usable once you graduate from school!!

no one likes  going to school like that he all need human kindness and contact in our life..after all we are not prudes

the Christian college near me is no where near that strict.. they do have some old rules ..but hand holding and other stuff isn't one of them and its pretty well open campus with off school housing allowed

Answer 5

That sounds horrible. You should transfer. I think you should tell your parents how you feel about the school and if they still make you go, then maybe get a loan or pay your own way to college by getting a job. Alot of colleges have financial aid and flexible payment plans. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I briefly scammed the website off the Pensacola Christian College, and its hard to believe that its not accredited. The first thing you should do is research the College and its "credentials" and if you find that it's really not accredited, tell you parents that you don't want to waste your time there but prefer a College that is accredited.

You could also try convincing your parents by telling them that its your future, and that you should have a say about where get an education that you think fits into your dreams.

If the only reason why you don't want to attend a Christian College are girls, that I think you're not ready for college.

Answer 7

Your parents aren't doing this to help you in life (unless for example you *WANTED* to be a pastor, minister or priest or something)

There doing this because *THEIR PEERS* will accept them more and because they want to and also likely to 'make you conform' to their rules and values ..

This want happen. The only thing they're going todo is push you away ...

You have todo what's best for you - this is a n**i-camp and you shouldn't be there if you don't want to. I would transfer, tell your parents why and give them the EDUCATIONAL REASONS why and that non-accreditation means this 'education' is worthless

Tell them your going to get a education in 'blahblahblah' and you can't get that here so your transferring. Remind them that you love them and will be a good son and will always make them proud, and you feel this is something that will

Tell them your doing anyway, you've made up your mind. But it would help you greatly both now and later in life if you still support them otherwise it's going to be much harder

There 'PEERS' will almost CERTAINLY be playing on their fears of you being 'corrupted' to try and 'slot' you into this school. There are *PLENTY* of other Christian colleges and are 'real' and have accreditation that will give you a piece of paper that means something, and that your prospective employees won't laugh at. *PLUS* don't forget the most important part *ACTUALLY* getting a education

Remember your parents have almost certainly been convinced by their community (if their devote and/or fundamentalist's ) that any college except 'their' college is COMPLETELY EVIL and will corrupt you. It's your job if you want them to support your education, please your family yet *STILL DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU* to help change their mind - they've be pensive. But do the best you can to teach them about 'real' colleges and then move anyway. As long as your respectful once it's clear *THIS IS* what your doing they likely will support you anyway - which is what a good parent would do (even if they think their choice is 'better' if they don't think your choice is 'evil' when it comes down to it they'll likely still support you)

*REMEMBER* you have one ace in the hole *WAR*. After everything is said and done and if they still won't help you tell them they that you don't want to join the Military and go to Iraq but it's the only way you can pay for school without their help. I can't imagine any family choosing war and possible death for their son, instead of a pipe dream of the 'perfect' (yet the worst in real life) college they think their son should goto  

I have to start doing what's write for you, and still respecting and having a relationship with your parents IF AT ALL POSSIBLE. If doing 'whats right' for you ruins the relationship with your parents for a few years - they'll forgive you once they see you where right .... but ..... of course ... they're your family so you want to avoid that at all costs. But what's right *FOR YOU* is more important then them having bragging rights to friends about your college

Answer 8

go up to your parents and tell them **** OFF. JUST **** OFF. its u ******* life they cant control you, complain as long as you need, shout, BE STUBBORN, dont let them win. well thats assuming youve tried negotiating (if u havent try the peaceful way, just explain tht). seriusly, unless you have some way to pay for another college urself (you could just do tht if u hav the money, they technically cant control you because the law ses tht once ur 18 u hav control over ur own actions) ul just hav 2 be a little imature kid until they c its not gonna work

PS if u dont wanna go tht way then u cud try guilt trapping them... im no expert on tht but u cud 'accidentally' show them this question and assuming all the people on it agree with you they could see their mistake? idk if u decide to do tht then tell me and ill delete this answer