I'm going to the eight grade and there's this girl trying to ruin my life what should i do please help!?

Question

This girl and i hav been friends in the sixth grade than we both liked a guy and she hated me since. i don't like the guy anymore but she does. she talks about me behind my bak. and wen i say somthing i always use curse words and i seem like the bad person. she is always dissing me in front of people. i don't want to look like the bad guy. wat should i say wen she disses me or talks behind my bak. she also got other people behind her and they all hate me, but the thing is i hate them too. please help me. i'm despret. i don't want her to ruin my precious life.

Answer 1

Well, first of all, your eighth grade reputation will not ruin your precious life. You can try ignoring her and being as nice to her and everyone else as possible. That way hopefully people will realize that you're nice. If that doesn't work try snarky replies that will "put her in her place" without being a downright insult. Only do this when the subject comes up though, otherwise you'll seem like you're the one who's talking behind her back.  

Answer 2

Kick her *** and she will leave you alone...GUARANTEED!

Answer 3

The less you fuel her fire, the less it'll happen, and it will ultimately fizzle out.  Typical ignoring doesn't always work on a bully, it depends on the bully.  The most effective thing I've ever seen/done/recommended is the one that makes them look in the mirror.

When you're around her, pay no extra or special attention to her.  Dont look intimidated, happy to see her, unhappy to see her, or give her any extra anything.

If the conversation does turn toward you...

- Be bored.  Yawn.  Dont exaggerate this.  The point of all these actions is they have to appear natural.

- Be uninterested.  Be very busy doing something else.  If your attention is dragged to them look at them like "huh?"  What?  Oh yeah, sure.  Then go back to what you're doing.  Dont have a response at all.  Don't be in a hurry to leave.  Dont roll your eyes or grit your teeth.  Don't CARE!  By saying nothing, and being completely uninterested, you're pointing out that it's old, and not worth a lot of attention.  This will make her "fans" take a look in the mirror.

- Raise an eyebrow like she is a complete idiot.  You know the look.  The one where you are COMPLETELY embarassed for the other person (her).  Finish it off with that (almost confused) look with arched eyebrows like "okayyyy thennnnn" (dont say this, just look the part) and nod your head very slowly like the March Hare.  Again, like she's a fool.  

Her actions will only last as long as she's getting a reaction.  Making fun of someone who doesn't care or react is going to quickly become boring to her audience.  When they're bored there's a risk that they'll find someone new to idolize.  She'll stop bothering you before THAT can happen.

Answer 4

if shes not ur friend then it doesnt matter what she thinks of you.

Answer 5

Lol not trying to "diss" you also but you really....... got to get over it. Just stop with that little girl drama bulls*it.  You l=know what im taling about just dont be around them its common sence.  

Answer 6

if the feeling is mutual between all of you then why do you care and exactly how is she ruining your life?  you should just stay away from her and her friends and try to ignore them.  

Answer 7

well your still young, and if you just ignore them, they will stop. Well maybe...if they don't just don't worry about it, talk to them, and just get them to say why they hate you so much. I'm not asking you to become friends again, but it's a stupid reason to stop a friendship because a guy.  

Answer 8

this girl seems like she is really enjoying the drama. she likes that she is getting to you.she must not have any other interests. even though she seems angry, this is bringing meaning to her life, you are bring meaning to her life. dont give her any pleasure in this. JUST DONT REACT. it's hard, i know. i've been through the same stuff when i was your age. it's hard but pretend you dont care. you can go home and vent with someone who is not involved. that way she'll never know how much she's hurting you. don't worry it will pass. dont bring any negative attention to yourself and noone will believe or remember all of this. oh, and cut out the cursing. it does sound trashy, especially from girls. good luck

Answer 9

if you still hang out with her, she is winning!

seriously, find some new friends, and be like, "you know what, i don't need you."

She cant ruin your life if you wont let her.

and if you dont like those other people, then it doesn't matter.

she is not a good friend.