I'm gonna be a c**p Mum, I can't put baby shoes on! What should I do? ?

Question

I'm 15, I got raped, My mum said she'd help out but I still feel like I'm gonna be a c**p mum, I'm due 30th september

Answer 1

like said above, it will come naturally. most women dont know what they are doing the first time around. you'll get the hang of it. when its your baby, you figure out what needs to be done. go ahead and get a baby book. such as what to expect the first year. they will give you general knowledge about life with babies!

Answer 2

Never put yourself down like that hun.

It's hard being pregnant, worrying about the baby and how you'll cope at the best of times (i'm due my 1st in Feb), without the added trauma of the rape.

I think you are being very brave and whilst you might not be the supermum we all dream of being (but then again - which of us will be that supermum? I'm sure I won't be), you will be the very best mum to your baby that you can be - and that is what is important!

As for ptting on baby shoe s- I'm not sure I could that atm either - but like you, when that time comes, i will learn to do it, and if they don't have shoes from day 1 so what - socks will keep the little tootsies warm!

What I would suggest is that you ask for, no - demand(!), some serious counselling sessions, if you are not already getting any counselling. The trauma of the rape will not go away by itself, and you will need help to deal with that so it impacts as little as possible on your little one. I am talking from experience. I wasn't raped as such, but I was sexually abused for 3 years, and 24 years on I am still trying to deal with it! Please, don't leave it as long as I did to get the proper help, deal with it now, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life and all those sleepless hours with your baby!

Also try some of these for help and advice:

www.rapecrisis.org.uk, www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk, www.thesurvivorstrust.org, www.hopesurvivors.co.uk

Answer 3

it will come to u naturally when the baby is born....if not ull learn how to do all those kinds of things....and if ur mom is there to help u...im sure u will be ok....

Answer 4

First of all, my best friend was raped and had a baby (at 14), she found a family that adopted her child because she just didnt' feel up to raising the child. That was 14 years ago and she kept a relationship going with that family and that child, she's happy with the arrangement and there are no secrets (except that she was raped). Consider it.

Otherwise, mother-instinct is something that comes after the child is born, just relax and breath. everything will be fine.