I'm grounding my 14yr old Daughter.?

Question

Grounding her to her room with no T.V, and no computer,and no phone and, no radio.

Any advice?

Answer 1

Taking away the things she is privileged to have (tv, computer, phone, radio) is a good start.  However, she will need something to replace her "habits" with.  What is she supposed to do during the grounding period?

Take her to the library and let her check out several books.  Write up a daily chore list.  TALK with her - she needs to know you are on her side, but must live with your decisions on grounding her.

The idea of grounding is to punish and also teach.  Kinda like  "do the crime - do the time" angle with the hope something positive is learned and the behavior won't be repeated.

When my oldest was 13 (she's now 31), she and a friend snuck out her bedroom window (they made a lot of noise).  We caught them in the front yard before they could take off for a night of fun, and immediately took the friend home and took my daughter's bedroom door off the hinges for two weeks.  She did some other things while growing up, but sneaking out was not one of them!

Good luck and hang on for the ride!

Answer 2

Number 10 copper wire and a 10 ft grounding rod should do the trick.  

Since there is no electronics you may think that lighter gauge wire should be used, but you never know about those stray bolts of lightning.

Answer 3

Spank her, and treat her like a baby by making her wear nothing but a diaper, unless she wants play outside then nothing at all from the time she gets home from school till the time she gets up the next morning for school, and tell her she'll stay that way untill she learns how to behave.

Answer 4

if you ground her, stick to it. dont go back on what you tell her or the whole "grounding" will be for nothing.

it doesnt really matter what she did, if you decide it warrants grounding, then thats all that matters.

Answer 5

oy i remeber being 14 and grounded from all that. i wouldnt take the radio tho. it will keep her from steaming.

Answer 6

I think that whatever she did, must have pretty serious for you to take all those privileges from her...

Obviously you are really trying to prove a point.. that whatever she did was so bad, she's restricted to doing nothing.. lol

I think you need to explain why you took away each thing. & that it was unacceptable for her to do what she did.. At the age of 14, she will probably be pretty mad about this, but she'll get over it. Try not to be too strict w/her, as it might cause her to try & "sneak" things, or act out again... It might even help to take away one of those punishments, for example.. "You can't watch any of your tv shows, but we can watch certain shows as a family".. or "You can't talk on the phone w/your friends,  but why don't you catch up w/some relatives".. "You can't surf the net, but why don't we research something new together".. You are punishing her by not letting her do what she wants.. but doing something together w/your daughter will keep her from doing what she wants, but will be good for you two.. Good luck w/everything!!

--- what did she do to lose all her privileges?

Answer 7

stick to the punishments!!! she'll respect you more later if you don't allow her to walk on you.  I used to ground my daughter all the time and then let her off after a few hours.  it never solved our problems, I finally started making her stick out the entire grounding, and now she knows not to mess around, because I following through with my threats!

Good luck!

Answer 8

what did sje do ???????????????

Answer 9

I smell a REBEL.

Seriously!!

Answer 10

Good Luck!! *lol* As long as the punishment fits the crime you should deff stick to it. Explain to her why you are grounding her & hopefully she won't repeat the behavior.

Answer 11

Why are you grounding her?

Answer 12

sounds like you have it under control.  and its no body's business what she did

Answer 13

It all depends on what she did and how long you are grounding her for. If those things are "vital" to her existence and you know that she will get the message if she spends a few days with out them then that is the right way to go. But is she is one of those rare kids who doesn't really care if they lose their electronics then you need to find a punishment that suits her personality. If she hates chores then a better punishment would be to clean out the basement/attic/garage, if she loves crafty things like painting then she has to go without that for a few days. Just make sure that the punishment not only suits the crime but is something that will make an impact. Taking the phone away from a kid who doesn't like to talk on the phone does nothing. But taking the TV away from a kid hooked on American Idol will have the desired effect.

Answer 14

no radio is a bit extreme, but as long as you are consistent.