My fiance and I decided together not to have alcohol at our wedding. The two of us rarely drink and our immediate families (parents and siblings) do not drink at all. The place we booked at is also a "dry" place so since we were set on having it there, even if we wanted alcohol, we couldn't have it. But he really doesn't want it and I didn't care and agreed to it. So now the problem is everyone else's opinions/remarks. We are having about 100+ people at the wedding and people keep making comments about it. Some of these people are not even people we're having at the wedding. They are coworkers or other acquaintances. They're also not always referring to my wedding directly (it's not as if I go around advertising that there will not be alcohol there), but they'll make comments about other weddings they've been to, "It was the most horrible wedding I was ever at. There was no alcohol." We also planned our wedding for the morning and our reception begins at 11:00 a.m. I thought this would "help" with our no-alcohol stance. Who wants to start drinking at 11:00 a.m.?
I don't know why I care. I should be most concerned with my fiance's opinion, my opinion, and then even my parents'. (They are helping to pay for the reception - about 50% - but they really had no input at all - their choice.)
What I need advice with is how to bring it up when someone who is actually going to be inviting mentions it. Do I owe it to them to say that we are having a dry wedding? Do they even need to know ahead of time? Am I right to say nothing and let them find out when they get there? Or am I right to tell everyone ahead of time?
I've been to weddings with and without alcohol and knowing the bride and groom, I usually can kind of guess if they will have it or not. So I don't think people should be surprised but apparently some are. Help!
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