I'm having dreams about cheating on my boyfriend?

Question

I’ve been having these recurring dreams of cheating on my boyfriend. Last night’s dream is the one I remember the most:

I was in an old abandoned farmhouse that belonged to my family and there was a group of people there. Everyone I knew was standing around with other strangers discussing some sort of big event that was about to happen. I see my boyfriend there with his friends, laughing and having fun. He looks at me and waves, but he won’t come closer or talk to me. For some reason this doesn’t get me mad (it normally would) and I walk away. I see a man standing in corner, yelling at people and giving orders, and for some reason I am really attracted to him. I go to him and we start to kiss, then I look up at him and we smile; out of the corner of my eye, I see my boyfriend staring at us. I wake up feeling guilty.

What could this dream mean? I’ve had other dreams like this, of me kissing other people. Is this bad?

Answer 1

It's you subconscious working overtime! I too have experienced similar vivid dreams; so much that I posted it in here. I think you may feel that you are in a rut and want to explore outside options. However, your moral sense of responsibility tell you to behave and be loyal. This may be the only way for you to have your cake and eat it too!! I hope you find inner peace and outer happiness :)

Answer 2

I think it means you are worried you will disappoint him.  It's nothing to think too seriously of. He still aknowledged you and waved int he dram. Obviously he's okay with you being with someone else. The fact that the other guy you were attracted to was mean and bossy might be something telling you that you want a little more aggresion in your life...since your b/f was just laughin and hangin out.

Answer 3

To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiance, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised  your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it  reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon  for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse.

Answer 4

Obviously, your conscious is trying to tell you that this guy is not the right person for you. Dream's are meant to tell you messages sometimes or give you insight.

Answer 5

I'm happily married and sometimes I still have dreams about cheating on him.  Sometimes my dreams are of before I was married.  I don't read into them.  It's just a dream.  It could be telling you absolutely nothing or that you miss the initial spark you had with your boyfriend.  I assume that's what my dreams are about.  I've been with my husband almost 8 years and he's the only person I've ever been with sexually.  I think my subconsious just wonders and wanders about other people.  Most of the time I wake up in a panic because I remember I'm married and I think what the h**l am I doing?  I've also had dreams of him cheating on me.  Those I wake up crying, but I cuddle up next to him and he just holds me.  He knows their just dreams but I need him to hug me to make me feel better.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are wanting a little bit more attention from him than he is giving you. Well, the right attention anyway. So by doing this, you are hoping he will realise something is wrong and ask what it is you would like him to do. Isn't that so much easier than trying to explain??? I imagine though even if you could verbalise what it is you want from him he just isn't that 'sort'. Shows of affection don't come easily.  Doesn't mean he doesn't think a lot of you, just he doesn't feel at ease showing it. The person you went to kiss was shouting orders,  symbolising being more assertive, knowing who he is, what he wants, not afraid to speak up, hmm... remind you of someone you would like???