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I'm having major issues with this girl?

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So, I've known her for seven years and at the beginning of our friendship, she was really nice to me. We were really good friends [but not best friends]. But now, I realize how fake she is. To my total surprise, she hates me! I don't know the reason why because I am always so nice to her.

Her family is going through financial troubles and she's really down on her luck and she told me she never gets anything at all from her mom. Her parents divorced and her dad abandoned her, her brother's an ***, her family's into drugs and s*x [these are teenagers, btw], and her mom refuses to do anything for her besides give her the things she needs. Her life is really tough so I felt sympathy for her, but I also liked her because she acted nice to me. So, I spent all my money so she could have a nice birthday. I got her a really nice purse, lots of jewelry, a cute sweater, and a teddy bear {my mom insisted on me buying it). But she is a real ***** and I never saw it in her.

Behind my back, she insulted me, spread rumors, and made me seem like a loser. She ruined TWO relationships with TWO guys that I really liked out of jealousy. She talks c**p about my family and saying that we are horrible people and said that we abused her. Sometimes she insults me to my face. I used to dismiss it, but now I'm fed up. She thinks it's alright if she begins an insult with, "No offense, but...". She puts me out as a horrible jerk. I'm not a bad person. I regret being so nice to her when she acts that way. She told my best friend that I curse at her and insult her when really I don't. She tries to take my best friend along with everything else. I stand up for myself and she can't handle it so she mixes up my words. Every time, I confront her about something she lies about or apologizes and continues on with it like it's all okay. She talks to me like we're friends, but I don't wanna be her friend anymore and she knows it. I've matured and instead of doing the same back to her I'm confronting her, but it's making it worse. I'm seriously thinking she's trying to ruin my life. What should I do about her?

I'm sorry that this is long.

[In truth, a lot of ppl are annoyed with her, but I never told her because it would have been rude. But, whenever, someone says the slightest thing about me she tells me, but she makes it seem even worse than it is. I know because I talk about it to that person and other ppl and they disagree with what she says. One time, when this guy [I really liked] admitted that he had crush on me, she told everyone he said he didn't like me at all and that I was a loser, even though, three of my best friends confirmed what he said and they all said the same thing.]

How can I deal with her and her issues towards me? Am I doing something wrong to make her act this way?

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  1. i would confront her push her around aka beat the sh** out of her confront her and be like why are you saying all this stuff about me she will probably go omg i didn't people are lying and be like don't lie to me

    don't back down even if she feeds you apologies

    if you don't do that she will never stop talking about you

    p.s it good to have an audience ;)

    ^^^this is if your in high schooll^^^

    if not then tell her don't want to talk to her anymore a person like this will only bring you down


  2. you are doing nothing wrong. just tell her "i dont like the way you treat me and if u want to be my friend then please stop"

    and if everyone knows shes a jerk no one will care if she spreads rumors cuse she will forever be known as a liar.

  3. I would disregard the friendship completely. Sounds like she comes from a troubled background and has issues that she would have to deal with in therapy or something. For now seems like shes just gonna play the pity card towards everybody in her life including you and this is not something you need to put up with in a friendship. I'm sure there are many other people that would appreciate what you do for them instead of wasting your kindness on this lady.

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