I'm having second thoughts about private school?

Question

My child hates private school she dispises it

she says there is a gruop of about 7 girls

that are making fun of her shes never had a problem when she was in public school

people say that public school gets children ready for life what do you think?

Answer 1

I have to be honest:

Private school is terrible.

I remember trying to skip school in the 4th grade just so I wouldn't have to deal with a group of girls.People send their kids whom are bullies to private school.

Public school is best for any child.

Answer 2

I went to private school. I was picked on and ridiculed for 9 years. I thought that was what life would be for me. In tenth grade I switched to public school. What a difference. The pressure to fit in was totally dissipated by the diversity of the student body. I found out I could fit in where I wanted and ignore the jealous people. After a while everyone accepted me because it allowed me to be me.

The flip side was that my school grades went down. The public school treated me like the real world treated me. No one made me do the work like they did in the private school.

So my advice is to consider your child. They are all different. If you have confidence that she will do the school work. If you believe she can handle the switch I would let her go for it.

Only one thing: check on line to see how the school she would be going to is rated and compares to other schools. Read the reviews if you can. They tell you a lot.

Answer 3

I have been teaching in public schools for 18 years and this is not the first time I have heard of this problem at private schools.  I can think of one reason why it exists so much.  One year, by a complete anomoly I had a straight grade 7 with 20 kids.  Usually we would have 30 plus so I was ready for a year of heaven.  It was h**l.  The group was too small for everyone to have someone to fit with.  By Christmas the really serious bullying set in and, because they were so intimidated, it was nearly impossible to get anyone to admit who was doing what.  In 18 years that was the ONLY year I had a real bullying problem that wasn't just a few people not getting along for a few weeks.  

With a small, select group someone is bound to be a bit different and in very small group they have noone to pair off with.  

I think that is what often happens in the very small, most homogeneous population of a private school.

Most of the public schools in which I have taught were fine, not at all the concrete jungles private school people portray them as.  

If your local neighbourhood contains mostly decent people, your local school should be OK.

Answer 4

if she wants public give her public.........private school isnt for everyone................and everyone i know that has been in private has hated it..................................i was in public and i was homeschooled....loved both......and always thought private scoools were for snobs..........(or really rich ppl.....).....if the public school there is a good one then let her go into public........if its a really bad public school (like the one we went to for half a yaer when we moved) homeschool her......good luck

Answer 5

mistress of serious has the worst opinion ever.^^^

try charter school, homeschooling, or christien school! public school is a bad, nbad place....

Answer 6

i'll be honest, in my opinion private schools are horrible.i went to a private school and it just didn't work. i think that if your daughter really hates it, then you should let her go back to public school. But you know your daughter the best. don't let her keep switching, that's not good. sit her down and talk to her exactly why she hates it so much, if there is anything she can do to fix it and if it's best for her, let her switch to public school. Sometimes the name of "private school" is really overrated.

Answer 7

Private Schools have a advantage of smaller class sizes. So if your child needs extra help it is available sooner. That is about the only advantage I know of over the public school system.

( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. Grade Public School Teacher )

Answer 8

If she didn't have a problem in public it could have been that it was the younger age group that's not into causing problems yet.  If she is really upset and it affects her take her to the public school.  You can always go back unless there's a waiting list.  Have you discussed any of this with the principal?  I'm sure he/she would appreciate knowing what's going on.  

None of us should judge any public school, I think they are great, it's just according to where you live. I do not like the public school we are zoned for so I chose to go to a Christian school.  Other schools in the area are great.  

As far as preparing our kids for life...it's one thing to expose them, it's another to throw them to the wolves.

Answer 9

I'm a teacher and I would pull her from private school

If she hates it, you're wasting your money that could go towards a future education.

Public schools have more oppertunities for courses than Privates do (Usually)

Let her go back to public school if she will be happy and confortable