I'm having s*x complications at 19--is this normal?

Question

this is already embarrassing, so please, only want mature, helpful answers please.

ive been having s*x for a while now, but its been over a year that i've been having trouble getting to enjoy it.

it takes me a while to get 'in the mood' for it, since i havent been able to get as aroused as before. we've tried foreplay, but even then it takes a while for me, if not never, to get into the mood.

if we do happen to have intercourse, i get dry easily and it ruins everything.

before i go for medical help, i wanted to ask here to see if someone else has gone through the same and could help me. its hard for me to go through this at a young age but i just want to find a way to change it.

ive tried lubes but even then, they don't work all the way since sometimes during intercourse i dry out =(

is it some sort of infection ive had for a while now? ive never talked to my doc about this before, but i'm really considering it now on making an appointment.

also i know its not normal because i wasn't like this before. before i'd get aroused easily, and now its a struggle.

Answer 1

Sadly, this is really common for a lot of women, even at age 19!

First off, try to find a valid reason as to why this is happening, since it could be a huge number of reasons. Start with health; Have you started or stopped a form of birth control lately? Are you sleeping well, eating well? (if you're too exhausted you won't be in the mood either) Are you getting enough water to drink everyday to keep you hydrated enough to perform? Have you checked to see if your hormones are balanced? (If not, have a test done at your clinic or buy an at-home hormone level test online.)

Then ask mentally; Has anything happened lately that caused a big emotional change in you, have your boyfriend and yourself started fighting/arguing? Have you lost someone you love recently? How is your stress levels everyday? Do you feel relaxed and confident? How's your job or school? How are your family relationships? Were you abused when you were younger? Are you depressed? Do you somehow think s*x is gross, wrong or unclean? Are you scared of pregnancy or disease?

If not any of these reasons, there are always herbs to help increase your libido. Lots of lubes and products are out there now to increase a female's s*x drive and pleasure.

But honestly, from a woman to a woman -- this is VERY normal. Especially if you've been with your boyfriend long-term.. you have to keep the fire (attraction and magnatism) going on both sides or something like this is bound to happen. Its normal, so don't worry over it -- but once you find out WHY this is affecting you personally, you can work to overcome it. It may be something as simple as releasing your stress and meditating, or taking a vacation to clear your thoughts.

Type a search into Google "female s*x enhancers" "female libido enhancers" "increase female s*x drive" etc.. you're bound to find tons of ways that work!

Good luck sweetie <3

Answer 2

ok alot of sexual issues relate back to emotional issues......have your feelings changed for the person you are with?.....Is your mind on s*x with your partner or are you stressed and thinking so something else?...before you go to a doctor consider an underlying emotional issue that is preventing you from getting the arousal you need.

Answer 3

Obviously go see your doc. Then also maybe try masturbation. It will begin to get you in the mood and ready plus help your body prepare for intrecourse. And p**n will help as well...

Answer 4

Honey, you may need to re-evaluate your relationship...not saying it is bad, but have your feelings changed for him recently?  You need to communicate with him and ask him to spend more time just loving you instead of having "s*x" with you.  Do you know what I mean?  Sometimes when we let the passion go out of sight, our desires and what once stimulated the senses, is not there.  You CAN get it back though if this is the issue, I could be way off base here.  Try some relaxation techniques and try not to worry and stress about the days events when you go to bed.  good luck

Answer 5

It could be hormonal.

Any hormonal changes can effect changes in how you can get in the mood as well as dry you out.

A woman's hormones change every ten years or so. In most cases, nothing this drastic happens.  But for some, it is enough to cause problems such as the ones we have experienced (I have experienced it too).

I would see a Gyn about it.

Answer 6

Are you on any kind of birth control? I had that problem when i was on one then i changed to a different kind.