I'm having some issues with a local bully, how am i going to deal with this guy?

Question

There is the guy who hangs out in my neighborhood and he frequents many of the places that I do. He would have been banned from many of these places, but it seems like most people are to scared of this guy to kick him out. All he does is talk trash about people, try to bait people into fights, sell drugs, and occasionally will physically attack people he doesnt like. Any young guys who are nice, and do well with ladies he has problems with. Now, it has yet to get physical between me and him, although the other night I saw him around all night talking trash about me and he eventually tried to bait me into fighting him. I think i handle him pretty well, diffusing the situation by remaining calm and showing him that i am not afraid of him, he eventually backed off and shook my hand. but this really bothered me. A couple of nights later a friend of mine walked into a bar with a lady friend of his, this bully guy, eventually physically attacks my friend, punching him in the face about five times in the face before it gets broken up (these two guys have had issues in the past)... On top of all of this, the girl that I have been seeing recently just told me that this bully guy has had a big crush on her for years. So, I know when he is going to have serious issues with me when he sees me with her, which is just a matter of time... so, my question is, how am I going to get rid of this guy.. He is a menace to society 99 percent of the people I talk to about him tell me just to avoid him alltogether, but this wont be an option once he sees me with this chick. I am a big fighter, and even if I was, this guy could probably take me. However I am willing to devote quite a bit of time and energy trying to frame him or sabotage him or do anything short of hiring a gang of toughs to beat the living h**l out of the guy. I have no Idea what to do. What would you do in my situation?

Thanks for bearing with the length of this question and i appreciate all responces.

Answer 1

Been there before in my life.

You can do one of two things, I followed through on the first as I like solving problems fast. His type when alone will almost always back down from a fight because there is no one there for him to get the satisfaction from. Have a friend or let someone know your doing this ready to break it up in case it gets out of hand. Look him in the eye and tell him that's enough trash talking about you and if he wants to go lets get it on.

*of course this means the a bloody nose possibly for one if not both of you*

Or video tape him selling drugs or beating someone up and dropping it off at the police station in a unmarked envelope.  

Answer 2

Most of the time to end bullying, fighting is the only option. But in this case, I don't think that's the right move.

Since you said he likes to hang out in place you go all the time, and a lot of people hate him, you and all those people could speak to someone in charge of the place you hang out. Tell the person in charge, that "I, as well as all these people will no longer come here if this bully is here. You will lose business. Get rid of him or else we will stop coming"

The person in charge (owner) may force that guy out and may file a restraining order through court just to keep his business. Especially since that bully causes many problems. Just make sure you have a lot of people on your side.

Believe me, don't hire a gang or something. Many moffia memeber live near my home, and if they do a favor for you, you will have to do a favor for them (saw this happen).  And that favor may put you in prison for the rest of your life. It works the same for gangs.

If worse comes to worse and you do get into a fight, just call the cops. Try stalling the fight or throw 0 punches (even if you take a beating). This way, you will gain sympathy and this guy may go away for a long time.

Answer 3

be a man, handle your business. if you can't stand up for yourself how can you stand up for her. for that reason alone you don't deserve a girlfriend. i suggest first try walking away. second of all don't be afraid lose. those who are afraid to lose, never try. no girl wants a p***y for a boyfriend. if worse comes to worse, you can do the job and what will happen?....probabley probashion for 6 monthes. but in your girls eyes your bad and she'll know you can protect her. the guy won't mess with you again if he knows you can stand up for youself.