I'm having trouble with my family?

Question

i'm 15 yrs. old, and i live with my mom and dad and brother (who will be moving out towards the end of august). For a couple months, i've started going thru that "i hate my family" stage where i don't want to be with my family very often and how i think my parents are annoying and all that (i know a lot of teens go thru this) at some point or another.)

But today my grandpa was over, and i had just come home from a long day, and i forgot to say hi to him when i walked thru the door. And apprently, that bothered him and he like, yelled at me for it. And my mom just talked to me and told me about how i should think about how i act towards other ppl next time and said that my grandpa was really hurt because i didn't say hi right away and asked me what was wrong and stuff, and i said nothing (which is true. nothing is bothering me right now, i just dont like it when my mom gets all worried about me!)

i don't know what to do. I know why my grandpa is upset, but i definitely was going to hi to him, i just wanted to sit down and relax for a bit (he was going to be at my house for a while anyways, so there would be plenty of time to talk later and stuff). But my parents don't really understand me right now, and if i talk to them, they'll get all emotional and upset and irrational (especially my mom).

I don't know what to do about this. I'm trying my hardest to not be so..."unfriendly," but right now, as a teen, i'd rather just be alone or be with my friends, and my mom gets really annoying sometimes so thats why i don't like to talk to her all the time. and my mom doesn't seem to understand that i'm growing up (i'm not her little girl anyways), let alone the rest of my family.

What should i do?

Answer 1

I remember going through the same things with my parents, and  so did my friends. Basically, you have to remember your mom will always be your mom, whether you are two years old or 50 years old, so get over that now because that will never change. She is conditioned to mother you, because she feels such an intense amount of love you, she wants you to be safe.

As cliche as this may sound, trust me, please just hang in there! When you get to move out may seem a lifetime away but it will happen, so fast, you seriously won't know where the time went. By then too when you don't have to live under your parents roof, you will apperciate them so much more because then you will be able to live by your own rules.

As far as your grandfather goes, that is a different generation and I know how that goes. My grandmother was a lot like that, she demanded the upmost respect, and we had to drop everything for her at all times, and she would have been upset if I didn't sign hi to her right when I walked in the door. But she has been dead for a year, and I miss her terribly. I would do anything for her to be back, annoying me. It seemed annoying then, but once they're gone forever, it always seems so petty. Even though this seems really intense to you now, and you should acknowledge that, when you get older, things tend to seem really insignificant.

Family is about unconditional love, please remember that. there is no handbook on good parenting, sometimes they make mistakes. I have had to learn that myself. But the good thing about family is you have to learn to forgive and remember your mom just has your best interest at heart.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Geez, I guess I wasn't the only teenage girl with this problem. My mom raised me on her own. I felt at times I was nit picked over about every little thing. What I wore, how I did my hair, what I watched on TV. It kinda sounds like your mom is a bit of a perfectionist. Try talking to her and letting her know that you are very thankful to have a mother who cares so much and wants to be involved in your life. However, you feel that now you are growing up, it's time you had more of your own life. You know that mom and dad pay the bills and they are still in charge, but they also have a responsibility to start letting you spread your wings.