I'm her date for her gf's wedding. Is it OK to offer to help pay my half?

Question

I'm visiting a female friend soon (I'm a male). She had remembered that her girlfriend is getting married the weekend I am out there. She invited me to be her date for it, which I am very happy about. That's not the problem.

We have known each other for a couple of months, and are still getting to know each other. Because we live far from each other, we don't see each other very much.

My question is, is it OK to ask her if I offer to help pay for the wedding gift (like offering 1/2)? She asked me to go, so I figure that I should not have to pay for both of us.

Would it be a kind gesture to offer to pay for my half? I like her a lot, and only want to be thoughtful, without being awkward. I have no problem with the money itself, it's just how do I offer?

Thanks.

Answer 1

You and this girl are not married. You don't even know the bride and groom.  The gift should be just from her, she's the friend.  would be weird if you offer.

Answer 2

I think what you are suggesting is very nice and she might appreciate it (especially if she is planning on getting her friend an expensive gift) but then that would mean that your name would be on the gift tag, and the bride and groom don't even know you.  I think that might cause a little confusion for them.  Also, she might want to provide her own gift.

I say, offer it, but if she declines, don't be offended.  

Answer 3

Seeing as you are a date you are not obligated to bring a gift so offering to do half is very nice of you.  

Answer 4

I would recommend asking her if you can (may) contribute to the gift for her friend. i.e. instead of offering to do so, ask if it's ok.

If you still feel awkward doing that, feel feel to add that you appreciate the chance to go to the celebration, and would like to be able to contribute.