I'm hurt and depressed, this time it's not a mood swing...?

Question

I've grown up with 5 families, and it's like that: one big family. I've known everyone for more then 11 years now. ages go from infant to 25, so every one has a friend their age. But I'm the only 13 yr old. When all the teens get together, we slipt into groups, like, everyone who's 20-15 (and some mature teenagers) hang out, then all the girl who are 15 to 18 hang out together, and then the dudes who are 15 to 18 hang out together, I don't really fit in anywhere. The girl who are 15-18 bore me with girlish talk, so don't hang with them. All the young adults talk about is school, which i like, but I'm only in 8th, and they talk about college. So i used to just hang by myself, until me and Josh, 15, started hanging out more and more fsince Oct. 07 and then he asked one time if i wanted to hang with the guys. So i did, and of course I'm already friends with them all, but I've never really hung out with the unless there was another girl around. So latly, I hang with the guys. My mom noticed, and got mad, said i was acting like a w***e, and said notto hang out with the guys unless another girl was around. Well, the guys don't act the same when a bunch of girls are around. So i just didn't listen to my mom, and kept hanging with the people i like. then my mom told some of the moms about it, and they told their girls, who have never really noticed, and now they are all in my face and on my back about talking to the guys all the time. and if i hear "Josh and Morgan are getting married right after Sara and Rays wedding" coz Ray is Joshs brother, and saras my sister. I can't help it i like the guys, and if me and Josh are BFFs. but we're not dating,a nd I'm not a flirt. What should I do? I'm hurt over these words, and I'm starting to get more depressed

Answer 1

well, i think your relationship with your mom is kind of important since you live with her lol ... just tell her that a lot of the girls don't have the same interests as you .... the guys are more down-to-earth and you feel more comfortable with them ...

and just ignore those people ..... they're just jealous that you guys are such great friends ....

and don't worry your not alone ... my parents are kind of strict christians and they don't like me emailing guys at all ... and my mom keeps pushing all these sleepovers at me lol ...

Answer 2

You should try to get your mom to understand you more and maybe have a talk with her about how theres no one else for you to hang out with.  I mean just cause you hang out with some guys doesn't make you a w***e..

Its not your fault that you made some friends who happen to be of a different gender.  Your mom is being unreasonable.

Answer 3

Be glad you have your mother, my mother was way worse than that and made my teen years a living h**l!  Sounds like you're stuck, especially if there's no girls your age to hang out with.  Maybe you and Josh can find a way to pass notes or communicate without being seen.  Your hurt feelings are validated, but your mother has say over everything since you're a minor and there's not much you can do.  I crawled into my own world as a teen, but I don't suggest you do that.  Just learn to cope the best you can and know that when you're older things will be better.