I'm hurt really easily and I cant help it. Are there any ways I can stop being like this?

Question

I'm way over sensitive about little things. The worst that gets me is that I'm really quiet. Usually I feel nervous or dont know what to say around certain people. They point it out a lot too. I was at my friends house earlier and she was talking on the phone with this guy. Meanwhile I was calling my mom back,since she called me earlier. The guy was like oh who is there cause he heard me talking on the phone. She went oh its Lisa. He went wow Lisa is talking on the phone to someone?! My friend told me he said this after she got off the phone. I HATE it. I'm sick of people doing this. It makes me feel like I should change who I am for them. I'm so easily hurt. People will make fun of me for it a lot. I know there joking but its like little things that add up. How can I stop being so sensitive about this?

Answer 1

sometimes when you are really sensitive it's caused by, pms. and sometimes it's caused by low self esteem. and maybe, something that's happened that is traumatic in your life, like a family member dying or losing a close friend. so many different things can cause it and lots of different things can stop it. sometimes talking to family, friends, or a counselor. and sometimes, just say to yourself, "it's just a joke," or "i need to toughen up. it doesn't matter!" hope this helps!

Answer 2

This is called insecure feelings.

READ ON:

GUIDELINE FOR GETTING RID OF INSECURE FEELINGS

If you want to cure yourself of insecurity, keep these comparisons in mind constantly:

What you should avoid:

 Taking trivial matters to heart

 Acting on the spur of the moment

 Getting upset and offended quickly

 Becoming emotional and impatient

 Craving sympathy

 Being slow in getting down to work

 Trying to do too many things at once.

What you should aim at:

 Taking only serious matters seriously

 Acting only after calm reflection

 Realizing others probably mean no harm

 Always maintaining an even temperament

 Standing on your own feet

 Acting promptly and with decision

 Tackling jobs one at a time, and finishing them

 Treating your work as a pleasure

 Looking always for the underlying causes of your distress

Answer 3

Watch this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYLMTvxOa...

Then, you'll know.

Answer 4

The world is not very patient to shy and/or quiet people. I think its because they dont like guessing what you are thinking or feeling all the time. Being quiet will hurt you more as you grow up and start looking for jobs and all that other stuff. Also people might think they can walk over you since you dont say anything. They might take your quietness for being a snob.

Ya you shouldnt change yourself to suit other people. But I think you will find it much easier to fit in and have friends if you start expressing yourself. You do have a voice and it deserves to be heard. Try practising small talk, like the weather or whatever y'all like to talk about. Initially people are going to be shocked that you can actually carry out a convo (!). But expressing yourself will come in handy in your adult life than you realize right now. It will save you having to be more assertive or having people walk over u coz when u are quiet they think you are a pushover.