I'm in a rut. Need some advice... help!

Question

First of all, Im depressed. Im 24 yrs old Ive been to 3 colleges and and still an undergraduate. I cant find a job because i still don't know what i like or what i want to do. My worthless dad keeps insulting me while were stuck at home because like me he too is unemployed. My mom keeps making me feel guilty and telling me how messed up my life is unlike my 2 younger brothers. I'm in a relationship with the person i cheated on last year because he still loves me. all my friends feel so distant because im here stuck at home and they are busy.

I'm in a rut. I want things to change. Need some advice. What do i do?

Answer 1

1. find a job

2. find out what you actually want to do

3. finish college

4. save enough money for you to move out

Answer 2

I know how hard it is to get out of a rut, i'm in the process myself and as cheesy as it is, the best thing to do is think positive.  I believe we ourselves play a huge part in our success based on how we think and being positive and focusing on what you want, be it happiness, success, prosperity is the best way to do it.  I would advise you leave the relationship as you don't seem to want to be in it.  It's possible you feel you need the attention and feeling of being wanted.  Trust me it isn't worth it, it'll create more issues in yourself.  Counselling is a good option too, although understandably it doesn't work for everybody.  Expand your horizons, you say you can't find a job, is it possible you don't really want one or feel unable to commit to a job in your current state?  If that's true then you need to take some time for self reflection and think hard about what's really going on in your mind.  Don't worry because things will get better as long as you know yourself and believe they will. Good luck :)

Answer 3

Time to remove yourself from the parents

Answer 4

First off, you won't really KNOW what you like/don't like for a job until you get OUT THERE & TRY something. Just give it a try. Check out your local newespaper for classifieds, go on jobs.com, etc. You may be pleasantly surprised. For example, You may become a waitress & realize you love the interaction with different people & getting good tips. I have been in a very simlar situation, so I know it can be tough. But you just have to get more confidance, realize you can do anything if you put your heard & soul into it. Then at the end of the day you will know you're trying your absolute hardest & in the end, you will feel much better about yourself & your life. Best of luck!

Answer 5

You've made the first step by admission,only you can change your way of living life and staying faithful in a relationship,now get busy"harsh but true",Good Luck!

Answer 6

Isn't it interesting?

Everything here is someone else's fault!

- college 1

- college 2

- college 3

- Employers

- Your DAD

- Your MOM

- Your two brothers

- Your cheating b/f

- You Friends

What is the common denominator here?

OH RIGHT!

Answer 7

Get a job, this will allow you to feel a lot better about yourself, and move away from your parents.

It's a start.........if you find employment with a major employer, often time they will help defray college costs, or even pay for school.

Know what you want a degree in before you return to college, otherwise you're just wasting time and money.

Luck