I'm in college and I have no friends. I tried getting into clubs and that didn't work. How do I get friends?

Question

I'm in college and I have no friends. I tried getting into clubs and that didn't work. How do I get friends?

Answer 1

when your at lunch or going for dinner ...  ask someone if you can sit with them.

Answer 2

In all seriousness..  join a fraternity or sorority.  New member recruitment is a huge priority for these organizations and there is bound to be one that will compliment you to some extent.  While some people bash greek life, it will open you up to a lot of friendships both in the fraternity/sorority and out, guaranteed!  And you will DEFINITELY get into one, it is just a matter of which one.

Good luck!

Answer 3

1. join a club-you will meet people with similar intrests

2. ask someone in your class a question. Maybe it will go somewhere

3. Do you ever go and study in your school library? Maybe you should. Then, go up to someone and be like hi your in my <blank> class right? Then ask a question even if you already know the answer.

Step 1:

Be loquacious, gregarious, chatty, talkative, friendly, outgoing, amiable, congenial, neighborly, sociable, approachable, easygoing and otherwise chummy.

Step 2:

Introduce yourself to those in your dorm and class.

Step 3:

Show up early for orientation.

Step 4:

Attend parties, sports events and special gatherings where people socialize.

Step 5:

Remain open to new cultures, ideas and values.

Step 6:

Invite people to join you for a bite to eat and a drink.

Step 7:

Offer to give people a ride somewhere.

Step 8:

Study in groups.

Step 9:

Reach out to others when they need help.

Step 10:

Join a student group or sports team.

Step 11:

Explore the Greek system.

Step 12:

Throw a party.

Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. If someone insults you, just ignore them - they have no idea what they're talking about!

Be Optimistic. Even if you are feeling really down, remember that there's always something out there to smile about. A positive outlook will make people want to be around you more.

Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don't get too carried away, there are some things you have to be serious about.If you joke about your friend in a rude way it could damage your relationship with them.

Smile as much as you can. Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.

Share interesting/silly ideas. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship.

Listen more than you talk. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation.

Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them.

Say "hello" to those that don't talk much. Share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather - as Tom Waits says, "Strangers talk about the weather." Try to compliment them.

Don't expect perfection out of anyone, especially yourself. For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, just make fun of the situation.

Be Patient. If you are still among strangers, the apprehension of a conversation may cause a delay in comments. Don't worry, that will go away in short order.

Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.

Place importance on making social contacts. The people who are considered popular may not be the sharpest tacks in the box, but they are acquainting with important people who may contribute to their future careers. It is never too late to feel that being popular is important. If your work environment allows for it, host a party, organize a sports game, etc.

Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem. Start your journey to "self-discovery."

Be loyal. Little things count. If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).

Be nice to others. Always give compliments, but don't try too hard. If you are shy, take a deep breath and risk it - you never know what might happen. Also, crack a joke every once in a while. Again, if you are shy on the outside but a little crazy on the inside, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around or dance. Others will laugh and find you funny and fun to be with.

Stand up for your rights. When someone is being too hard on you or perhaps showing signs of prejudice, speak up! Let it out in the open: "Is there any reason to make you prejudiced?"

Be honest. Lying will make people not want to be your friend any more.

Even if your shy you can still do this stuff. Shy people tend to be reserved like myself and afraid to look stupid.

Answer 4

im sorry

but if ur g*y enough to go on yahoo answers and ask this you are hopeless

Answer 5

eh, i know how you feel, man. i'm a freshman and only have a few friends. like, one that i actually enjoy all the time. so, i'm probably not the best one to answer this for you. but, i know that you can't force any kind of relationship; if its meantto happen, you probably won't have to ork at it it'll just click. also, get a roommate! i met my friends by living by them. and friends of neighors, etc. hope tht helps!

Answer 6

be more friendlt

Answer 7

Be a friend.

That always gets you a friend.

Answer 8

The least likely person is the one who will accept you that is how it worked for me

Answer 9

just act cool it worked for me

Answer 10

Look people in the eye and say hi.

Start a simple conversation as you enter or leave class. "Boy, I really need to catch up on the reading," or "Wow, this is astonishingly boring"--anything which can be ignored but if it's not, can't be answered with a yes or no.

Do these things many times a day, and people will start talking to you. After that, it's extending open invitations. "I'm going to find a cup of coffee--want to come?" or "I'm hitting the library at four--maybe I'll see you there."

Answer 11

Start a sport, or gym. U meet heaps of people that way and you share something in common.

Answer 12

You have to make friends not get them like acquisitions.  Stop trying so hard.  Finding people with mutual interests is a good starting point.  Listen more, talk less.  Why did joining clubs at college fail?

Answer 13

I had very few friends at university but then I'm foul tempered and a bit of a loner.  If shared interests are no good, choose someone who doesn't look too daunting and ask them if you can borry lecture notes or a course book.  Go to the pub and take a paper and have a couple of pints at the bar.  With men, especially, it's a good way to strike up a conversation.  Reappraise your appearance and personal hygiene - you don't have to be perfect but the better presented you are, the more chance people will be drawn to you.  Give the clubs thing another go, concentrating on one or two favourites.  Friends do come along, whether you like it or not...

Answer 14

join a group for something you like, like....ummmm,  i dunno, a stamp club thing <don't ask me, i had to think of something random> and then, talk to the people in the group. usually, people who have things in common with you are better candidates for friends cuz you can talk about a subject, without arguing about it.