I'm in love with a married man, he has three kids, and i really want him.. what to do??

Question

I have noticed that most of you has attacked me, Im not a bad person, he came to me he wanted me so bad saying that his wife is being so abusive,she doesnt make him touch her, he used to love her but she made him hate her, he is married to a cold woman has no s*x life. he wanted to divorce her, but she ran after me, threatening me, thats when i backed off but he still wants me. im so confused

Answer 1

Too bad he's married!! Leave him & his family alone b/c he's not gonna leave his family for a side order of a$$!! Women like you make me sick! Just remember KARMA is a bit*hing! Wait until your married & some w***e is trying to take your husband!! If he really wanted you - he would be with you & not his wife!!!

Answer 2

I am going to be straight up with you, and believe me this comes from experience. Leave it alone, i promise you in the end you will come out the loser. He will not leave her or the kids for you, and you will be the one left with nothing. I know its going to be hard, to leave someone that you have developed feelings for, but please do its only going to bring you so much pain.

Answer 3

no brainer here..leave him alone. If he and his wife divorce make sure it's not because of you. He will eventually cheat on you too.  

Answer 4

His wife wants him, too.  His kids want their dad.  And guess what?  Their wants and their needs take priority over YOURS.

If you break up his marriage, a part of him will NEVER forgive you.  Do you want kids with him?  He already has kids and is obligated to support them.  He may not have the time or money to put into more children.

And what are you going to do when someone else comes along who "wants" him?  You already know he's a cheater.  Do you really think someone else won't take him from you as easily as you think you can take him from his wife?

You already know the answer here.  Break it off.  Leave the married men alone.  They've already made their choice and their commitment.

Answer 5

Well, we have a big problem , don't we? He is married, do you really think he is going to leave his wife and family? Its not going to happen in this life time, Now you can wait around and see but you will be waiting a long time. I would move on with my life and stop wasting it on a looser.,

Answer 6

You don't want him, but the idea of him.  Don't disrespect yourself and go for someone that is unobtainable.  Give yourself more credit and don't fall into the trap of a nowhere relationship.

Answer 7

Put yourself in his wife's shoe first and see if you'd like it if someone like you "now" would come ruin her and her family's life,,,, then you decide

Answer 8

i leave him and his family be, even if u did get together with him full time would u honestly think he be faithfull to you somehow i dnt think so men like hi raley leave their wifes, y would he has it all his family and his bit on the side, and believe me he still be having s*x with his wife and wont be thinking off u, i can say this cos my ex hubby cheated on me and we had s*x when i chucked him out he went to his little slappers to live cos he had no where to go and it didnt last he begged me to take him bk and in end he left her to show how serious he was, and even then i didnt take him bk, i heard though friends he remarried but he cheating on her my point men like this never change, and u be known as a home wreaker for what a cheap shag, get ya self some respect

Answer 9

U need to leave him alone and let him be with his family... if he cheated with u and then leaves his wife for u he will cheat on u and leave u for another woman... go get some counseling and break off this arrangement or u will be unhappy...

Answer 10

Get therapy or go to your closest church there is something very wrong with your judgment or you just like to sin.

Answer 11

The first mistake you made was getting involved with a married man in the first place. The best thing you can do is to walk away and don't ruin his kids lives. Tell him that you can't see him anymore unless he decides to committ to you, then stick to it. No secret meetings, or quickies in a hotel, just have no contact at all. If he makes the decision to leave his wife, then he's fair game but until then you are wrong to pursue this relationship. Think about his children and his wife. How would you feel if the man you loved was having an affair? Chances are if he cheated on his wife to be with you, then he'll cheat on you too.  Women today need to learn to wise up. He's not going to leave his wife for you! You are a piece of booty!! Are you ok with being used and then tossed aside? That's exactly what he is doing. Who does he go home to at night? HIS WIFE!! I don't mean to be rude, but that's the truth. Find a man that you don't have to share. Aren't you worth that?

Answer 12

Let me run this down to you from experience girl-friend.........  If you get him he'll do the same thing to you, and his kids will be miserable and messed up mentally for losing there father.....  If you get him it'll start out ok and then resentment to you will set in and he'll blame you and pick you apart! He's broke anyway and I don't care how much money he has because the wife and the kids are going to brake him financially anyway once he's gone! He's damaged goods sweet pea and your in denial!

D= Don't

E= Even

N= Know

I= I

A= Am

L= Lying

wake up sweetheart it'll never in two million years work or last! Sorry being honest! No matter how much you want him...........

Answer 13

Find someone of your own to love.

It's less stressful and just as kissy.

Do you really want to risk causing those children incredible pain and trauma that will last their whole lives?

Answer 14

Loving someone means caring for them, not wanting to possess them etc. If he is married - leave him alone. You will destroy his life. If at some point he gets a divorce you can revisit the issue. You don't want to be the woman who lured him out of a marriage.

Answer 15

yea.. he has a ring on his finger. This should mean to stay away.. and if you're wise, that's what you'll do.. Imagine you get hm, and after a few years he ends up with some other.. You would like that? Put yourself in his wife's shoes!! If he sais their relationship is over.. than let him divorce before anything happens between you (he probably won't do it only if he already has a bed to jump in after that). He is lame for even considering having someone else.. can't you see? I was in this situation once, almost in love with a married man, but I never encouraged anything, even if I did wanted him. I said.. it's you decision, if you decide to break up.. ok, just not because of me. I don't know if I want you.. Don't offer him the net!! it is just not right.    

Answer 16

Go stand in front of the mirror and repeat after me stuppy. Do you have any idea how much money he would have to put out in child support? The two of you would never have a good life together. I promise if I had 3 kids and my husband left me for some who*e I would go out of my way to make their life miserable.

I would tell my children to refer to her as the who*e and I would drain him dry. All they would be able to do is work and support me and the kids.You know what they say hel* has no fury like a woman.

I have clients there are married to men with children I am a hairdresser and they tell me how miserable they are having to put out so much money and if you think another woman's children are going to like you when they know their Dad was cheating with you guess again. They will do whatever they can to make you miserable.Like come to visit tell you that you are not their mother and they do not have to do anything you say. Tell their Dad you hate them. Trust me this is soooo not worth it.

Take the advise you have here no matter how painful it is walk away for a nightmare about to unfold in your life. Run don't walk run away

Answer 17

Well, with so little information and a blanket question you won't find much sympathy on here.

But every situation is different.  But in general if he's not ready to leave his marriage and kids for the right reasons - like their marriage has collapsed, they fight in front of the kids, one of them is abusive or cheating... then you will be seen as a homewrecker.  

If you really want a relationship with him that has any chance, you need to be patient and wait for him to do the right things first.  If he doesn't or won't, he does not deserve your love.

Answer 18

You need to find someone single. Do you realize that you will be stepping boundaries. First off if he left his wife for you, that would mess the kids up in all ways, then his wife will be heart broken and all the people that surround them. Please don't even think about trying to do anything to break that family apart. Go out, find someone else to like.  

Answer 19

He's married and he has children, so move on and find someone else.  There are many other men in the world who aren't married.

Answer 20

Ya I'll tell you what you can do. But you won't like it. Go find someone else whos not taken or married. Get some self respect and stay away from him. How would you feel if there was a lady after your husband? Thats the problem today with people. They just don't care!!! And besides>>> Who says he'll want you!!!!!!!!!   Mind your own buisness and dig down deep into that SO CALLED heart of yours if you have one and find some self respect and some morals.  

Answer 21

I was also in love with a married man.  He had a young baby - and he left them, to b with me.  We got married, and now have 2 children of our own.

It was a horrible painful transition - and now that we have children of our own, I have a much deeper understanding of life on the other side of the fence.  My story is unusual - most men don't leave their wives.

You also have to prepared for a LOT of grief from everyone around you (his family, her family, your family and friends).  

We have been married for over 7 years now (together 10 years), and I trust him completely.  He is the faithful type - and I honestly believe that he picked me, because we were meant to be together.

If it was my daugher in the same situation however - I would tell her that it isn't worth it.  Stay away from a married man - very likely to cause a lot of pain to a lot of people.

However, at the end of the day - all is fair in love and war.

Answer 22

If the married man you are having an affair who has three kids, may be there is an ongoing problem with his marriage. He must be frank enough to tell you why in the first place he got hooked up with you if considering he is happily married. Be sensitive on this matter an try to go down the bottom of it. We never know if one day he decides to divorce the wife and lo and behold you there for him. I don't judge you of doing something bad. Remember, this relationship is not a one way affair but it is more of a cooperative undertaking. If you really love him that much, you must show your support to him and understand the situation you are in. Ask him the ultimate question, if this relationship is for real and would last come what may!  

Answer 23

Ask yourself this question......do you want some man to do the same to you as you want him to do to his wife and kids.  Remember, he is not only cheating on his wife, but his children also.

and if you accept this kind of behavior from a married man, then when you "get him", he will eventually cheat on your and your children.

I would suggest not doing it.....think of how hurt his children will be, and how they will be picked on in school and such, because of you.

Answer 24

stay away from this married man..he has a wife and children and you shouldnt want to hurt those kids..

find someone that is unattached...

Answer 25

Personal experience.  You will be left heartbroken.  He will never leave wife and kids & even if he says and maybe honestly thinks he loves you and can leave, but when the crunch comes he will stay with his wife.  Tell him you love him and because of this you are now going to leave him to work at his marriage.  At least if it works or doesnt work wont partly be down to you now.  Just have faith if you really do love each other.  The marriage wont work regardless of wanting to do best fo kids, and he will reaslise this on his own.  Divorce and be free to be in your life as your partner.  If u stay around it adds to his confusion.  If he was decided, he would have left.  He may make some decisions in the heat of the moment and dispise you for it forever.

Answer 26

Reality Check time - you think if he leaves her, you will have her life. Not going to happen. How is he going to buy you gifts or take you places when he's paying child support for 3 kids and possibly paying alimony as well? The kids will hate you until you die for breaking up their home (have a great time with them every other weekend!) With any justice in the world, he'll cheat on you too & give you a terrifying disease (keep in mind that even now you probably aren't the only s**t he's doing).  Here's hoping you get every happiness in the world that you deserve.

Answer 27

Find someone else.

There is no reason for him cheating and you are not helping his marriage or his children.  

Answer 28

Yeah that is a tough one.. he is married and he is only going to hurt you and break your heart until he is not married or you move on.  Good luck, but there are plenty of single guys out there for you.. just not me.. lol..

Answer 29

Mhh what do u think ur better than his wife,he loved her so much that why he married her en they have kids so get out of people life en get ur self a single man

Answer 30

Whatever you want to do.  Just don't expect a lot of sympathy or be upset when people laugh at you when karma comes calling.  

Answer 31

For starters, this man is married as you said.

Personally I do not think that he will ever be yours and yours only. He has a wife and kids, he has a responsibility to them and is just looking for fun with you. As difficult as it may be, move on even if you get him he is going to cheat on you as well, it's in him.

For your own sake REMEMBER WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. YOU DON’T WANT ANOTHER WOMAN FOOLING WITH YOUR HUSBAND WOULD YOU.