I'm in love with my best friend?

Question

Hi, im 20 F, my best friend he's 20m.

We have been best friends for about, 10 years. i started developing feelings for him like 5 or 6 years ago. i never told him though. in the mean time i dated other guys, but nothing felt right, because deep down in my heart, i always wanted my best friend. Now, 2 years ago, me and him became a little closer than friends. We werent officially going out though. A fight happened, I stopped talking to him for a couple of months like a fool =( Then, when i started talking to him, I found out he had a g/f (1 year ago) and he's been with her ever since. This crushed me , every day it crushes me. Hes always with her sleeping at her house and everything. Not one day goes by where I dont cry. I try to forget about him and move on, but i always start thinking about him again. I tried to be with other guys as well, to see who else is out there but when they touch me, i feel .. well, I just want my best friend =(. Now when I see him sometimes, he looks at me, just like the way he used to , sometimes he'll sit on me , and touch me i mean, I know its probably not right of him, but it makes me confused, then it makes me think maybe he does have feelings for me, but I dont know. Everytime he looks at me, and talks to me, I just getlost, i just think of how I wanna be with him for the rest of my life. he always makes me smile no matter what. Other days he just wont talk to me, he never talks to me when hes with his g/f only when hes not with her. Im really confused and so hurt. He has no idea how I feel about him I want to tell him, but I dont want to because he's taken I dont want to hurt him. =( any advice?

Answer 1

dont waite for someone whos taken....i mean....y would you waste sooooo much time waiting for someone who has sa girlfriend and has had one for a year already! its time to move on....i mean if it was meant to be then it would have alreayd been there...you cant live in the past....life doesnt stop for anyone... and since life is so short then y not make the most of it? your 20 years old....single....and probably a pretty girl....and your waiting for this guy that most likley wont come very soon....i mean if i were you i would tlel the guy that i liekd him...a lot.....but since he has a girlfriend that i am going to move on and find someone else....yes i would tell him that.......its NOT as hard as it seems........

Answer 2

I know you probably don't want to hear this but I wouldn't tell him just yet.  You are both young..he probably won't be with this girl forever and if he is you shouldn't get in the middle of things.  Put yourself in the shoes of the girl that he is with...would you ever want that to happen to you in any circumstance?  even if you know in your heart that you two belong together wait it out...we always want what we can't have.  

Answer 3

Tell him straight forward how you feel. He might reject you, but nothing ventured nothing gained. Just know, that if he doesn't accept you then he's stupid.

Don't start laying it down on him. Draw him aside and tell him that him not talking to you when he is around g/f and then being all touchy feely when she's gone, hurts and confuses you. Explain how you feel for him, don't hesitate. Just be 100% honest, but not desperate sounding. Explain to him that, after trying to find someone else, it didnt feel right. And how you wished it was him instead.

Dont pressure him into breakin up with his current g/f, let him know that that is how you feel and you thought he should know. Remind him of all the years you've been friends. Maybe he'll put his priorities in order.

Good luck  

Answer 4

Tell him how you feel. He seems to like you, did you ever think how he felt when you dated all them guys, maybe he is just trying to move on like you.

Invite him out for a coffee (dinner, movies etc), and tell him you need to talk, and tell him what you just told us. If he does not like the idea hes not worth it, you never know what will happen, I say give it a shot.

Good Luck. :)

& your not a loser, go and get him.

and for his girlfriend, push S**t through her letterbox [;