I'm in need of some tips,would you guys help me out?

Question

I'm adopting 2 children and the whole process will be finished in about 7 months & they will come and live with me. I did fine with my Niece when she came and lived with me because we are both related. Do you guys have any tips to help me make there first few nights easier? I want to help them get use to living in my home when they come in about 6 months. Both me & my niece have had loss in recent months and I suspect these children have too. I want to make it easier on all of us.

Answer 1

You "suspect" they have had loss?

Um, you are adopting children, what do you supposed happens to a child in order to become adopted?

LOSS.

Do some research into adoptee issues.  Educate yourself.  d**n right they have experienced a loss, the loss of their mothers, families, EVERYTHING.  

Be prepared to be VERY empathetic and open to discuss this loss with them.  Be open to talking about their first families, about their pain and grief, don't expect to be an "instant family" because it will take time.

Just try to put yourself in their place...what do you think you would feel?  I think a lot of these questions could be answered pretty simply if people would just stop for a moment and actually consider that.

Answer 2

I would just suggest you let the kids get use to the new environment on their own time. Don't overwhelm them by forcing the new relationship, it might take time for them to get use to being part of a new family. I know you've done a good job with your niece and that this  situation so this will go well too.

Answer 3

i am not a parent so i won't even try to come off as one. the only thing i can think of is just try your very best to provide a loving, caring environment for them to flourish, thrive, grow, and prosper in. that is all i can tell you. i have faith that you can do so and be a wonderful parent to them

DE

Answer 4

tell them all u lost to make them know u know how they feel and tell them what they want to eat for the first 2 weeks.

Answer 5

Once again congratulations on your decision.

I think that is very difficult to plan; it will depend on their subjective personalities. Some children can be very open and have the capability to adapt themselves to new circumstances and some kids are introverted and shy. I hope yours will be positive in attitude and will enter your home with a good disposition.

You might want to prepare the meals all together so they feel integrated from the start. Also play some games that are fun but not  competitive.

Don't start talking about the sad things from the start but concentrate on the future, plans and dreams.

Good luck