I'm in the process of getting divorced - moved out 3 weeks ago and left EVERYTHING behind. It's just me and m

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I'm in the process of getting divorced - moved out 3 weeks ago and left EVERYTHING behind. It's just me and my little boy.

I just found out (through a "little bird" who accidentally spilled the beans that one of my friends has planned a housewarming party for me.

I'm EXTREMELY greatful, however a little embarrased and uncomfortable (I don't want people to think I'm greedy or begging for assistance). THE PARTY IS TOMORROW EVENING!

What should I do???

And I if I let the party continue....I think I should get my friend a "Thank you" gift. I'm a HUGE Willow Tree Angel fan/collector. I thought about getting her one of those.

Should I get the guests anything - I'm not sure who is even invited. AHHHHHH - help!

Answer 1

accept the generosity of your friends with grace, they want good things for you.  A gift for the hostess later, is a good idea, and thank you notes for the rest.

Answer 2

Don't feel embarrassed. Your friends probably want to  let you know that there all there for you and supportive of you. Relax and enjoy the party.

Answer 3

DO GET THE GUESTS ANYTHING THEY ARE THERE TO SUPPORT YOU. NOW YOUR FRIEND THAT IS THROWING YOU THE PARTY YOU COULD GO GET HER SOMETHING. BUT THIS IS YOUR TIME FOR SUPPORT AND JUST LET YOUR FRIENDS TAKE CARE OF YOU.

Answer 4

Just enjoy the party and let your friends help you out and support you.  It's a gift to let people come to your aid.  They wouldn't be giving the party if they didn't think you were worthy or if they didn't want to.  After the party a SMALL thank you gift for the hostess would be ok, but a note would be more appropriate.  Be gracious and open to the love they're trying to give you.

Answer 5

You have wonderful friends, how blessed you are!  Don't feel stressed or embarrassed, your guests already know you are not the one that planned the party.  A small gift for your hostess will be fine and thank you cards for your guests will do just as well.  

I want to wish you the very best for you and your son.  I too am in an almost similar situation and I have yet to find the strength to leave.  God bless and have fun at your party!

p.s. There is only one more thing for you to do............go shopiiiiing!!  Wouldn't you like a new cute outfit for you and your son to greet your friends in?  ;)

Answer 6

A house warming party is usually arranged by someone other than the occupant.  Its a party and just feel grateful that you have some cool friends to see you through in the long run.

You don't owe your guest anything but entertainment which includes good food.  And since you aren't throwing the party, you don't even owe this much.  Just prepare a short and thankful speech, and go have some fun!

Answer 7

Be happy she loves you that much.  It takes a lot of work and planning to throw a party. She's trying to show her support for you, as are the people who are coming to the party. Be graceful and acknowledge their support.Thank them for it.  You MUST let people do things for you, or you will find they will not accept things you want to do for them.  You are a very lucky girl to have these friends.  Just remember your manners - show your appreciation. Gifts for the invitees are not a good idea.  If you want to get her a small gift a week or so after the party, that's fine.  She wants to help you out. Accept it gracefully.

Answer 8

How nice of them! :) I would get your friend the little angel gift figurine, but don't worry about the guests.

Just take care of yourself and little boy, and enjoy the moment.

Good luck in your new future! Divorce is never easy for anyone, so keep your head up! Make sure the child has a happy life, as well as you. (If leaving some bad situation)

Answer 9

You don't need to get anybody anything. Just a heartfelt thanks and tell them how lucky you feel to have them as friends.

Answer 10

maybe a thankyou card or flowers....

but if someone else planned the party then how can you look greedy?

just thank them so much at the party and let them know that them being there for you is the most special thing.

Answer 11

It sounds like you  have great friends! You should only buy something for the friend that is throwing the party if she knows that you know about your party. And Willow Tree Angels are perfect for that sort of thing. You don't owe the guests anything--you're not the one who invited them. Hope this helps!

Answer 12

That's a wonderful idea.  If you left everything behind, I'm sure you are in need of things to set up housekeeping again.  This is no different than giving a new bride a shower, or a mom-to-be a baby shower.  No one is seen as "greedy," or "begging for assistance."  You need to let the party continue as it would have if you had not "accidentally" found out.  Don't pre-buy any gifts.  If you want to buy your organizer friend a little gift, then do it after the housewarming party.  As for the attendees, no gifts are in order.  That's like thanking someone for sending you a thank-you card.

Answer 13

u r luckly to have sweet friends.  enjoy them and the party.  b gracious.  u never know who will b in ur shoes(  myself included). the gift u can give ur friends is 2 b gracious,n make them feel comfortable.  enjoy ur party with ur son.  congrates on starting the new chapter in ur new life!!!!

Answer 14

Decide after the party. It's too soon now.

Answer 15

Don't get anybody anything.  It's their turn to give.  Relax and enjoy the party.