I'm jealous of my boyfriend's best friend!! ?

Question

We live together so we see eachother all the time and hang out pretty much every night. Lately though, my boyfriend has been inviting his friend to sleep over -- he sometimes sleeps over 4 nights out of a week or stays for entire weekend. When we plan a trip somewhere he always wants his friend to come along. And when he sleeps over ont he weekend they get up before I do to play sports and then come back like 6 hours later. It bothers me and I told him so and he thinks I'm being weird for beign jealous of his friend... Am I?

Answer 1

There should be times where it's just you two and times where he can come over.  And then times when it's just him and his friend.  Tell him you don't want to always incorporate all your time with his friend.  That's not unreasonable at all.  I don't think you're wrong at all.  What is his priority?  The relationship or his buddy?  Come on.  

Answer 2

That's just how men are - they enjoy bonding and sometimes take it too far. Try just focusing on yourself for a while. Don't make plans with him. Saturday morning just get up and go for a  jog or go to the beach, the bookstore, the mall, etc. After a couple weekends like this he will realize that you aren't always just sitting around waiting for him to get done playing with his buddy and he will ask you what's up. You then have the opportunity to explain to him that you are the priority and while he has the right to hang out with his friend you would appreciate if he didn't sleep over and if you were made aware of their plans beforehand so that the two of you could schedule time together "alone"  

Answer 3

I completely understand how you feel. My husband has a friend that he is either with all day long, or inviting over to hang out with him if he "has" to stay home, or when they aren't together they are on the phone. It will drive you after a while. I say just let him know how you feel. Let him know you feel left out. It has helped a lot with my husband. He still gets wrapped up in little things here and there and I have to remind him that he is doing it again, but if you guys leave the lines of communication open and try to compromise it will be a lot better.

Answer 4

i can understand you being jealous but you can't let that feeling get out of line. i would not have told him that you felt this way becuase its sort of selfish. there are some things that guys can do together that sometimes girls can't. they are BEST friends.

Answer 5

why is this in the marriage and divorce section?

Answer 6

I hate to say this but it sort of sounds like your boyfriend could be g*y. Have you thought about asking him, have you noticed if he touches you differently, does he seem the same? You should really pay attention to that because two guys don't hang out that much together so its weird. Talk with him and try to figure it out but quit being jealous over it - that is silly but if he is g*y, be pissed instead! Good luck girlie!