I'm just curious, is this okay?

Question

My wedding is in 6 weeks on October 18th. I'm sending out invites this week ( a tad late I know) and I totally spaced and didn't put instructions in them as to how to get from the church to the reception. ( since they are not being held the same place.) Would it be okay for me to have the pastor say something at the end like introducing my mom's special friend and telling everyone to follow him to the reception, since he lives where the reception will be? He reserved the room for us as a wedding present. ( Free room, YAY.) I'm just wondering if that's okay or if that's a no no.

Answer 1

It's a no no!

I know weddings are a lot to organise but where there are a lot of people invloved, they really need to know what is going on. It really makes a difference to how people organise thier own transport especially if they are elderly, have children, car sharing, some people may be late etc.etc. Send out the instructions to all of your guests, you still have time and your guests will know exactly what they are doing or else be prepared for 1000 phone calls!

Answer 2

If you are sending out invites now then why cant you send out a map at the same time or just after they go ?

Answer 3

I think most of the suggestions above are excellent.  People are expecting a reception somewhere anyway, and if they are curious they will call and ask and you can explain it then.  i think the maps in the programs is an excellent idea.  i know alot of people dont go straight to the reception right away and like to stop off sometimes so following someone wont work for everyone, but including a map/directions would be awesome.

Answer 4

Yeah, i think that is a good idea.  

Answer 5

This actually happened to us as well! What I did, was make really nice directions, photocopied a bunch, then left a bunch of them at the door of the church where people would see them. It worked pretty well!

Answer 6

Why have him say anything. Just treat them as a couple and assume it is natural, which it is, and go from there.  

Answer 7

my uncle just got married and had the same problem. his wife had her mother wait until the wedding party left and announced where the reception was going to be held, and the people who the directions. everyone made it to the reception on time and it was a chance to meet the other family. congrats and good luck.

Answer 8

I think a little of both could work.  Have the pastor make an announcement that the reception will be at _____ and that maps are at the door.

Side note:  If I was a guest, I would just Mapquest it, or use my GPS, not call the bride.  I think a lot of people will do that prior to the wedding anyway.

Answer 9

Or you could add a piece of paper in each with a map - pretend that you intended all along for it to be on separate piece of paper!

Answer 10

I think that would be fine. At least you know that your guest will arrive and not get lost.

Answer 11

why not print a small map showing how to get from the church to the reception and tuck it in the invites. if your invites are all sealed, are you doing programs? you could tuck the maps in the programs. or i would just have a small section in the church where you can pile the maps and people can take them. i think it would be hard to get everyone to stay and pay attention after the ceremony.  

Answer 12

I don't like the idea of having everyone follow him.... Then people have to find his car outside, wait around on other people.... It's just not a simple idea.

Instead, I would print up direction cards and ask someone to hand them out as people are leaving the ceremony site. That's really a better idea than including them with the invitations anyway, because then people are likely to forget the directions at home. :)

Answer 13

I think that's a great idea.

Answer 14

I would spend a little cash and have directions printed out on little cards. Then you can distribute them at the wedding along with the programs.

Answer 15

or you could include a map with your wedding flyer.  

Answer 16

I think that would be fine. Congratulations by the way!

Answer 17

It's your wedding. You make the rules.

Answer 18

I think it is ok (unusual) but ok  lol  jpjp   congrats on ur wedding  

LOVE RULEZ  ( LOL)

Answer 19

that or hand out directions after the ceremony. make them pretty and on little cards and just have an usher hand them out.

Answer 20

Why not!  You are paying loads of money to have you wedding at the church...but maybe not the priest...just have someone stand up and make the announcement when the ceremony is complete.

Answer 21

You might have to do that! There isn't much time now. You could always write it on the bottom of the invites, since you didn't send them yet.