I'm kind of tired of it. He needs to make up his mind. What's wrong with him?

Question

My guy friend liked me...it was pretty obvious, and I let him know I wasn't interested. Not directly, but I gave him signs that I wasn't interested and I think he got the idea.I did like him though. It got to the point where he talked to our friends including other girls and ignored just me like I was a nobody and then he got a new girlfriend. It has been like this for about a month. A couple days ago he said hi to me FINALLY. He gave me a hug. He ignored me then. I sent him a message and we wrote to each other. He seemed very happy when I sent him a message. I saw him yesterday and it was like a communion and well, he stared at me for long periods of time while we were seated[he was across the room].I then began to feel uncomfortable.I find it weird when ppl start at me for long periods of time... but yeah. He ignored me and he's paying attention little by little. What's the deal?

Answer 1

You are playing games and you will end up hurt.

Answer 2

In the first place you turned him down, so he is trying another way to possibly get your attention, by making you think that he can do without you. Remember, you started it by turning him down first. He is just getting even by showing you that he can get what he wants, even if it means that you are not involved.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Well, from what I gather it looks like he likes you. Some guys, and notice how I said SOME, don't stop to get a girl. A lot of times, it intimidates a guy when a girl says no. Or, they just think your saying no to test him. Even if you didn't say the actual words, as a long as your were giving him signs, then that counts.

What you can do, is either bump up the level of signs, or just tell him. I'd do it nicely. You don't want to break anyone's heart.

If you like him, which it sounds like you might, then you figure it out. Sometimes in school, there will be a guy who I'll tell myself, "There is no way girl, that you're going to date him. HOW COULD YOU!" And then the next moment, I'm beating him up and things like that.......because I like him. You see?

But if that's not your case, then that's not the case, understand?

Also, guys are confused. Men send mixed messages all the time, Especially when their teenagers. So, sometimes to figure it out, you need to ask him. If you don't like him, but you still want to know, then go up to him and say, "Look, what's with the staring thing. Do you like me." Go for it girl, be bold and out there.

I hope I helped. And God Bless. Remember, things take time. Don't rush it, but it it continues without any progress, just do it.