I'm lonely! and i dont get people?

Question

Ive never met a person who i can be truly myself around. ok i have but its rare. I'm a girl and i do silly things like boys plus im kinda immature. Anyways ive been lonely my whole life. I always see friends in big groups and get jealous. WTF do i have to do to make friends? im a natural loner and ppl are attracted to ppl with friends. i tried joining clubs but it failed. I hate how i am. How the h**l am i supposed to live life? i eat lunch with girls i dont like b/c i dont know anyone else in that lunch. im painfully lonely.

Answer 1

lol i dont get people either...i actually hate everyone in a way lol you know. but all you really have to do is be nice to people. Start a conversation or something you know. Once you talk to someone a lil and you start to get to know them, things will get alot better and easier. And you'll be able to be yourself around them. Theres alot of people in the world alot like you...you just dont know it yet...

Answer 2

As I once heard, if you want a friend be a friend. Try being nice to another person that you want to be your friend. About being immature, who cares! I have the most immature friends and I still hang out with them. Try finding someone else that is lonely. If they want a friend and you want a friend then hooray! If you want to be friends with a boy ask him out for a milkshake. (This never fails, a girl asked me and I had no choice but to say yes!) Good luck in finding some new friends =).

Answer 3

You have no hope.  Just start cutting yourself.  Your world is crashing down on you, because you're not popular.

Give me a break.  Just get over it.  If you want friends, then don't judge people.

Answer 4

lolza

Answer 5

Well you shouldn't be focused on getting groups of friends but at least one or two who you can be really comfortable around. Everyone has similar interests just find someone who you can start a relationship based on them and then branch off. As for the girls at lunch. Try to get to know them let your feelings be shown, let them know you don't know much people around and would like to be their friend.

Answer 6

Assuming that you are in high school, all I can tell you is that things get better.

Here are some tips to meet more people:

1.Give complements to random people.

2. Smile often.

3. Do not keep to yourself, because people will think you are s****..

4. Talk to random people in your classes, you may find someone cool.

5. BE nice!

Answer 7

zoloft

Answer 8

Being a loner is tough, I'm one myself. The best way to meet people is to find something you enjoy doing like dance or sports or throwing lemons at strangers. There usually is a group for everything and that si a great place to find like minded people. Just be yourself and and randomly say "hey" to folks. Yes some will think you weird, but others will smile and say "hey" back.  

Answer 9

I have felt that way too. I always feel like an idiot when im talking with a bunch of popular kids & i get embarrassed & confused when ppl actually seem to like hanging out with me. I feel better being alone, but at the same time i dont like it. You have to find other ppl who are shy or dont have many friends. Thats what i do, bc i feel the most comfortable around other ppl like myself. Try to develop a personality that other ppl will find attractive, but you have to remember, the most important thing is to be comfortable in your own skin.

Answer 10

Ok. well you should not have to change at all. If people don't like you the way you are then you don't need them. You can try talking to new people though, just go up to someone you think you might like to be friends with and start a conversation. If you do that enough you will make new friends. And I know how it feels to have to be some else around my friends i was like that for the longest time. You just need to find true friends and the only way to do that is to talk to new people. But if you need a friend now someone to talk to i will be your friend. if you want email me and we can talk [e-mail]

Answer 11

Don't worry. There are ALWAYS groups that welcome anyone into their group of friends as well. You don't have to be jealous of huge groups, but maybe groups with few people; 3-4. After you make a small amount of friends, they may introduce you to several more!

Find people that hold the same interest; people that you really want to be friends with. And try to find the nicest people around!

Answer 12

You don't appreciate what you have.  Why would anyone else?

Let me expand.. You said you sit with girls you don't like because you don't know anyone else.  What's stopping you from trying to get to be friends with them?  You didn't say that they didn't like you.  You are envious of what others have but you may never have that.  You sound like you have low self esteem and other kids pick up on that.  Work on yourself and that's what it takes.

Let me also add that I'm a loner and always have been.  I have very few friends but the ones I have, are golden.  They are or were loners themselves for the most part.

Answer 13

Most people who hang out in groups don't think of all of them as really good friends. They are ok friends but not really good friends. The few that you have that are really good friends and get you, are the most important. Most people only have a few friends who really get them and understand them anyway.

You should try to get over your shyness. The best thing to remember is if you do something stupid, it will eventually be forgotten after a while. I don't think anyone remembers anything embarrassing that I did in High School. Even if they did, I could most likely laugh about it now. Learn to laugh about things that you may have done that are embarrassing and eventually you won't be embarrassed anymore about it. The most embarrassing thing I did in High school was cheese off a really loud f**t in the cooking class. I mean LOUD! No one even talks about it anymore and if they did, I can laugh. LOL

EDIT: The people who seem to get the most 'followers" are the ones who don't give a rip what anyone thinks and just behave like themselves. If someone doesn't like you the way you are, just act like... so what!

Answer 14

Golly... It sucks doesn't it?

I remember back in the day feeling much like you do now.

All I can tell you is "Girl, it's going to get sooooo much better!"

Most of my closest friends even today are guys, because I can hang with them and do gross silly things other girls don't dream of doing - and I love it - and they love me! Friendship is wonderful - especially when it's real.

Keep being yourself! Smile - remember it's infectious. Don't ever give up or throw in the towel. Laugh at yourself. Try to be more open.

People do stupid things, say stupid things they always will!!! I am 27 now and still haven't figured out a thing about why people do the things they do.

I try to see the good in everyone rather than dwell on the bad - and that's easy to do - but it's not worth it...

When you start believing in yourself others will take notice and want to be around you. People are attracted to positive people...

I hate hearing that you are lonely. If you need someone to talk to more - shoot me an email! :)

Good luck girl & keep your chin up!

Answer 15

Try to get a loner guy to like you.  

Answer 16

find people like you their rare but you'll find em sooner or later

Answer 17

Get to know one person at a time. groups are stressful, even for  outgoing people.

Get to know people outside of school first.

then inside..

its ok!

Just take it step by step.

Answer 18

Change ur attitude - it'll do you wonders.