I'm looking at writing my wedding vows. I need some guidance with what is acceptable to say without being too

Question

mushy and over-romantic. I love romance and poetry and so does my fiance. We have both been married before and neither of us chose our previous vows.

Any helpful lines or affirmations would be appreciated. Thanks

Answer 1

Check that the legal requirements are. Normally you'll be required to make sure you actually say that you agree to getting married. Sounds small, but it can be easy to forget. The requirements will vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, so I can't give more help without us knowing where you live.

Answer 2

Try this site... there's loads of great poems.  The link below is about wedding vows, but there are poems about a second marriage there too & also about meeting online (which me & my husband 2B will be using!)

http://www.ashley-wedding-cars.co.uk/wed...

Answer 3

You both love romance and poetry, so write what you think sounds right and what sounds poetic.

I wouldn't be able to give ideas as to what lines to write, but if it sounds right to you, it'll sound right to him. And n matter how 'mushy' it may be, he'll love it because it comes from you and because he feels the same.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 4

Log onto www.myaussiewedding.com, you can meet others, share ideas and find suppliers. Hope that helps.

Answer 5

Christin... is right.  Just saying pretty words or reading a poem does not meet the requirement of exchanging vows.  The vows are the contract part of the ceremony, where you each tell the other what they can expect out of the marriage (traditionally, you promise, love, honor, fidelity, respect, etc.).  If you don't tell the other person what you are offering them in marriage, then you have not exchanged vows, and may not be married.  You can say pretty words or read a poem, too, but be sure the vows include a promise for the future.

Answer 6

I am in the same boat, and from what I understand legally you have to put in the words husband / wife.. that is all the rest is up to u!

Poetry breaks away from tradition which is great, so why not make it a little bit fun too?

add a personal element to it also, as writing your own vows is much more special - my suggestion is to make it personal (which is romantic) , and include a vow in there that only she can relate to.. like " i promise to always hold the bags whilst you shop....." a little bit of fun at a wedding never hurt anybody!!

Good luck, and I hope that u have some fun with it!

Answer 7

I think that the answer is... you should say whatever you feel compelled to say, i.e. there are no rules or limitations.   It is only within you to know what to say.  Sit for 30 minutes or an hour and see what comes forth.  Think about your wife to be, and see what emotions are drawn from you.  

My husband and I wrote our own vows, and the only thing that we told one another beforehand about what we had composed was the approximate length of our statements.  We didn't want one person to say 2 sentences while the other had a 5 minute speech.  Just to let you know what we did... mine followed the basic structure of "Your heart, mind, etc.  is why I choose you.  Your.... is why I choose you."  My husband, on the other hand, basically wrote out 3 paragraphs about the qualities that he found in me that made him realize that he wanted to marry me.  

One thing that I can say is that writing our own vows was the  most special part about my entire wedding.  You need not worry about including any particulars like another poster mentioned b/c the ceremony is just that... a ceremony.  The legal document is the binding contractual document.  You can also have your preacher/minister ask you both to recite a few traditional vows before you give your personal vows as well.  Good luck and congrats!