I'm looking for help on how to trace birth parents in the uk after being adopted?

Question

i have my mother's full name and most of my fathers. i was given up for adoption in 1980. adopted in 1986.

Answer 1

Try the Salvation Army it worked for a friend of mine, they are very good

Answer 2

Try local adoption services and social services first in the town were you went to live. Legally, this matter has to be looked into at your request, though remember, you may not like the result. Good luck >:D<

Answer 3

A good start would be genesreunited.com

Some other sites you might be interested in are ...

http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationshi...

www.findmypast.com

Good luck on your search :-)

Answer 4

Contact Norcap

I'm glad you live in the UK and not the USA.  The UK reinstated an adoptee's rights to their own birth and adoption records in 1974

Come on America, catch up with reinstating Adoptee Rights!

Best of luck to you

Answer 5

put more info here you never know they might use YA

Answer 6

Try the salvation army they have helped loads of people find birth parents.

Good luck.

Answer 7

SALVATION ARMY any day they worked for me

Answer 8

There is a National Contact Register worth trying in the first place - you should have received details when you applied for your original birth certificate - I think it is coordinated by the ONS / Dept of stats. Norcap is also a good organisation to try for information about tracing and they also provide a tracing service. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Good luck with your search which ever method you decide but please do think carefully about what you might find out before you go ahead.

I'm an adoptee too and really don't want to find out as I might discover something negative such as...

* Cancer in the genes

* Mental health problems

* selfishness (as someone else mentioned)

* That I am the child of a one night stand or even rape

there could be positives too but you need to consider both possibilities.

Good luck

Answer 10

Try contacting local adoption agencies.  Also contact your local authority who may be able to help.  Search the internet for other agencies that may be able to help.

Make sure you consider this carefully.  Things do not always work out how you expect it to and this can be distressing.  I met my mother for the first time 18 months ago (I am 41).  I put her on a pedestal for most of my life believing she never meant to abandon me and my brother - it must have been some terrible mistake etc.  When I met her, I quickly realised that the reason she did give us up is that she is completely self centered without any guilt or regret.  I haven't seen her since.  That said, finding her was the best thing I ever did - I can now spend the rest of my life knowing that I had a better life with my dad and my stepmum  - they gave me opportunities that my natural mother could never have done.  Good luck with it all.